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Why I Don't Want Another Baby

This week I have been getting my baby fix. Six years ago I gave birth to my final baby, Adolpha. (Yes, she was the last, although starting this blog almost two years ago felt a bit like giving birth and sometimes it's my favorite child, I still don't count it.)

Every now and again I get a little twinge and I realize that it's baby pains I'm feeling (and not gas pains as I had originally assumed). When I get these twinges I have to remind myself that I am 40-freaking years old and I am way too damn old to have another baby! So I take a Tums and I go on with my day.


This week I had the opportunity to get my baby huff on. A friend had a baby a few weeks ago and she let me come over to sniff and stare at her baby and then this weekend I went to not one, but two, baby showers. At one baby shower I stalked a lady and her baby, because he reminded me of Gomer. I finally went up to her and promised I wasn't a creeper who was going to steal her baby. I completely unloaded my baby crazy on her and told her that her little boy reminded me of Gomer and how she should probably never put him down for at least another year, because now eight-year-old Gomer will barely grunt at me unless he wants food, let alone hug me unless he's stalling at bedtime. And then the Hubs and I bombarded her of pictures of Gomer so we could let her know what her son will "look like" some day. Yes, we're complete wackos. She was sweet to let me fawn over her baby and make a fool of myself. Just wait, when that baby is eight she'll think back to the crazy lady she met at the baby shower and she'll feel solidarity with me then!

As much as I enjoy the soft little cheeks and the tiny fingers of babies, all of this baby overload made me realize that I really don't want another one and here's why:

SLEEP - Ahhhh . . . probably the thing I enjoy most in my life is a good night's sleep. This weekend Daylight Saving (I saw on the news that there is no "s" on the end, who know??) happened. My kids aren't rolling too well with the changes, but at least they can tell me how miserable they are instead of cry like cranky babies. Within a week my kids will be on the "new" time and we won't have this problem again until next spring (the change in the fall doesn't hurt as much), but in a week, babies will still need a feed or a diaper change in the middle of the night and me and my kids will be slumbering away. I don't care how much of a Super Mom you are, I don't know anyone who looks forward to those middle of the night feedings with a baby. Those sucked. Getting up for a feed was bad, but this was the worst: "We have a wide awake 10 month old if anyone is interested in babysitting" is a Facebook post I just read at 10:45 PM accompanied by a picture of an adorable, VERY wide awake baby. Ha! Sorry, suckers, I'm off to bed.

STRESS - Remember when you were a first time mom and you stressed about everything? Is the baby too cold? Is he too hot? Did he eat enough? Is he eating too much? Why won't he sleep? Should I wake him up? Is he breathing? Am I bonding enough? Am I spoiling him because I never put him down? Is his brain being stimulated? Is he over stimulated? Just writing this paragraph raised my heart rate and put a knot in my stomach all over again. Yes, it was much easier when the next baby came along, but one baby friend I saw last week is on her third and we had to cut the visit short, because she needed to take the baby in to get weighed, because she's still so itty bitty. I had one of those teeny tinies that needed to be weighed on a regular basis. Those days were surreal, because it was the only time in my life I stood next to a scale and PRAYED for it to be heavy. "C'mon, Gomer, gain a pound! Even half a pound would be great! How about a few ounces?? Momma needs some chunky legs on you!" You should see Gomer now. You'd never guess he once weighed 5 pounds. Now sometimes I worry Gomer weighs too much! Crap, maybe the stress never leaves, it just changes. Still! I'll take this stress over baby stress.

THE SHIT - No, I don't mean the literal shit. Although, that was never fun either. I sure don't miss the days when my kids would managed to produce a bath-worthy blow out just before we'd walk out the door. No, I'm talking about the gear. Y'know, the stuff: the diaper bag, the breast pump, the bottles, the bottle warmer, the milk cooler, the infant seat, the fuzzy cover thingy to go over the seat to keep the baby warm (can you tell my kids were both winter babies?), the stroller (umbrella and jogger and eventually a double), the bouncy seat, the exersaucer, the stacking rings/cups/blocks, the puzzles, the lovies, the stuffed animals, the onesies, the tiny socks, the boxes and boxes of diapers and wipes, the blankets, the sippy cups, the co-sleeper nest, toilet locks, the high chair, corner guards for furniture, the Bumbo, the outlet protectors, the bibs, the door latchers, the binkies, the Boppies, and the tummy time mats.

Sure, there is still shit with older kids, but not as much as babies. I went to Buy, Buy Baby to purchase my shower gifts this weekend and I couldn't believe the NEW shit they've come up with since Adolpha was born. Cell phone covers that match your diaper bag (because it would be tacky if it didn't match), memory foam changing pads (that baby has a nicer changing pad than my mattress), a baby bath tub with a built in thermometer (this is for the ultimate worrier - "The water feels cool enough for the baby, but how I can be sure??"), and my favorite, an 11 dollar piece of plastic that clips to your stroller, shopping cart, etc. so an older kid has something to hold onto when you're out together. Because carts and strollers are hard to hang on to with just your hand?? If you're going to buy this thing, you should go ahead and get two, because you know you're going to forget and leave it attached to a shopping cart the first time you use it. I know I would.

Tell me one good reason why I need this thing!

FLEXIBILITY - Hallelujah! We no longer have to plan around nap time. I felt like every time we left the house I was watching the clock. My kids were great sleepers, but if they fell asleep in the car, they could NOT transition back into the bed. Adolpha was famous for falling asleep in our flipping driveway. We would then be forced to drive around for an hour while she got a semi-decent nap. If I wasn't in the mood to drive around, there were several afternoons I left her strapped in her carseat in the garage with the car doors open and the door to the house propped open so I could hear her when she woke up. What? You think I'm a terrible mother because I did that? You do desperate things to get your child to nap. I know people who duct taped their kid in their blankets, because those fancy, burrito swaddling blankets hadn't been invented yet. Don't judge.

Yesterday, the Hubs and I planned an impromptu trip with the kids and we didn't have to worry about packing half of the house or where everyone would sleep. Another year or so and those kids will be able to pack their own suitcases!


THE DIAPER BAG - Yes, it was listed above, but it really deserves its own mention. I was so stupid the first time I got a diaper bag. I wanted a Coach diaper bag (because you know me and my love of Coach). What I failed to recognize was that that bitch was leathah and heavy as hell EMPTY. Now, fill it up with just half the shit mentioned above and you're carrying a bag that weighs more than your baby. When Gomer was six weeks old I dragged my exhausted ass in to see the doctor, because I was having terrible back pains. He took one look at the assortment of crap I'd hauled into the office with me: a 20 lb diaper bag (loaded with enough stuff to get me through a week in a snow storm), a breast pump (because I was a newly minted dairy cow and it seemed that I was pumping every 20 minutes), a cooler for my liquid gold, and a baby in an infant carrier. He took one look at me and shook his head and said I was suffering from "new mommy back pain." He prescribed a lighter diaper bag (with maybe just two days worth of supplies), a stroller (to carry the bulk of the shit), and a nap so I could start processing logic again.

I'm sure there are many other reasons why I don't want anymore babies, but I don't have time to list them here. It's my bedtime and I'm looking forward to my eight hours of uninterrupted bliss!

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68 comments:

Courtney said...

SEX! I have a 6 week old and the time change didn't bother me one bit because, hey, I'm not sleeping anyway! But the sex, or lack of I should say, is frustrating. With a toddler and infant in the house, finding time isn't a possibility...I don't care what anyone says. I would even settle for dream sex if I could manage to sleep long enough to actually dream!

Starr said...

We still have to plan around nap time. *My* nap time.

We had our three kids right on top of each other so we'd never experience more freedom to only have it taken away after a new baby came. Thankfully, I have friends and family having babies now so I can go hold a tiny newborn for awhile. I do miss that.

Denise G said...

40 is too old? I think not. I had my first baby at 39 and just had my 2nd 4 moths ago at 41. You have plenty of time. I will say that I am completely jealous that you get uninterrupted sleep.

Kindgrl said...

It's funny that you just wrote this. I have twin toddlers and keep having dreams that I'm preggo (I'm not). I wake up thinking, eh, it wouldn't be so bad to have another. Thanks for reminding me that it WOULD!

Lisa said...

My six year old can get herself dressed, pack her own lunch, take a shower with moderate supervision (shampoo, then conditioner - no all over your hair)...she can even bring me my morning coffee (completely validates the cost of those darn keurig pods).

Babies can not do any of that for me. But they do smell so yummy.

Jenn Nan said...

No more bath time! I can tell my kids (6 and 9) to get in the shower and they can shower, get dressed and comb their own hair! (I still have to dry it occasionally). It's like heaven. Bathtime used to take up at LEAST an hour and there was always an argument over bubbles or no bubbles and then mom had to clean up all the bubbles, etc, etc. Now I just yell "Get in the shower!" and it's done. Lovely.

Kendra Wells said...

My boys are 4 and 5 (14 months apart) and I am DONE! I occasionally get the crazy notion that I want another baby (impossible since I dragged my husband to get a vasectomy when my youngest was 6 months old and my oldest gave up naps). I just look at old pictures of my boys in their high chairs after eating spaghetti and my baby fever is instantly cured.

Julie Workman said...

Every. Single. Thing. you listed is TRUE. My youngest (PigPen) is 3.5 now. It's heaven to walk out the door with nothing more than my purse and my car keys in hand. No damn bags of shit-I don't-really-need-but-might-so-I-better-bring-it-or-I'll-be-sorry.

I've been jonesing for a baby lately. I just kidnap my nephew at church, and stalk craigslist for cute puppies. I'll not be getting a cute puppy, but I can look and coo without anyone figuring out I'm a tweaker!

mymomismmoments said...

I have 3, ages 6/6/2, all boys. My boys are great, but I still yearn for a girl. Though I enjoy not having to match outfits and comb hair in the morning. :) Im open to a 4th, wouldn't say no if I got a girl. But one more boy peeing all over the bathroom... yeah, no.

Mosaicwench said...

The only time I ever craved a baby again was when my teenager started driving. Babies STAY WHERE YOU PUT THEM. Teenagers, NEVER.

And here is a little preview of your menopause from a 52 year old mom whose youngest child is 21. . . I was in a store recently and heard a baby crying. My "milk" let down. Needless to say there was no milk, but the feeling was the same and IT BURNED. Enjoy the non-menopause years while you can. Hormones suck!

L. Shanna said...

As someone with a two year old and an eight month old, THANKS A LOT FOR RUBBING IT IN.

San Diego Farmgirl said...

Oh be careful, you might jinx yourself. I had never planned to have kids and wasn't trying, but POW at age 41 I got knocked up. That's what a decade of healthy living will get ya, a super healthy uterus. I should have stayed in Kansas, where the abundance of cream gravy, tater tots and alcohol would have rendered me infertile by now. Damn.

lovetoread600 said...

Mine are 7, 11 and 13 and I would bawl my eyes out for days if I found out I was pregnant. We are beyond breastfeeding, naps, diapers and "bedtime routine". Now all I need to figure out is how to pay for college...

blog said...

I have a 2 year old and am due with my second in April. I do sometimes wonder why I wanted to do this again...newborns are so much work! And I get my sleep now and we have a nice routine....mainly I am doing it for my daughter, so she has a sibling. I didn't want her to be "alone" in the world. That said I do think this one will be a little easier and less stressful since I have some clue what I am doing this time around. BTW...you're not too old. I'm 38 and having a baby 1 month before I turn 39!

Confessions of a PTO Mom said...

Never say never.

WordChazer said...

I think it would be WW3 if I ever managed to get pregnant. I'm 43, both my husband and I are only children and I do think that if it was to happen, my husband would be accusing me of sleeping around! Happy to read everyone else's tales of babies, but it is not a trend I ever intended to follow.

Shauna Baker said...

My youngest is 5. I'm feeling a little baby lust myself (and my damn siblings won't give me nieces and nephews to let me get my baby fix). Since another would make #4, my husband put the kibosh on that idea. So in retaliation I told him I'm making the appointment for his vasectomy. Hey, I birthed the babies, you can get the snip snip.

Katie said...

Oh man. I haven't even had one yet and you're not selling it, lemme tell ya!

But if I never become a mommy, I'll never be a mommy blogger! I'll get around to the first part someday :)

Peanutlayne said...

I have 5 kids and I am so done it's not even funny. One of my close friends has a 5 month old baby girl and I will hold her for a few minutes and then i'm handing her back to mom so I can sit and hold my Diet Pepsi on the couch and relax. Maybe i'm entering my selfish phase but I started having kids at 18 and i'm 35 now and i'm just done with it all! I love my kids more than anything but i'm glad we are out of the baby phase. I totally get it.

Heartmom5 said...

When my oldest was 12-we adopted his sister-nothing like a sweet baby to ease you through those nightmare teen years. Now the baby is becoming a teen and the older brother is making me a grandmother-all the fun with none of the sleepless nights,heavy bags etc.!

LizM said...

i am 37 and have a 3.5 year old who is basically as good as you can get (while still being a busy boy who is 3.5 with an attitude). i have always wanted a sibling for him but i'm about to give up. my husband is an only child and the 3 of us just work better. i don't like the 'looks' i get from others when they realize i only have one (is there a REASON i can't have enother?). still...is one and done ok? i think it can be....

Tiffany said...

I have a girl who will be 2 in August and I'm hoping to be pregnant by summer with kiddo #2. I'll be just a few months shy of 40 if plans work out. Yes, I know, things NEVER work how you plan. I'm ok with that too.

I don't haul massive amounts of shit with me. Never have. 3 diapers in the diaper bag (a few more in the car just in case) and a pack of wipes. Extra change of clothes for kiddo in the car in a ziplock. Done.

BNo said...

Postpartum depression. You'll never miss that.

Kristie Buckner said...

I am so with you on this! I had this conversation with a friend a couple of weeks ago and it all came down to the SHIT! I would have another one if it didn't come with all the baby crap! I don't want that stuff in my house! I don't want to pack it and lug it around with me everywhere I go! I love the fact that my 5 & 7 yr olds are independent and self sufficient. We can plan things with out worrying about naps and feedings! So glad my hubs volunteered to get a vasectomy 5 years ago!

Oni no Tenshi said...

Everyone keeps asking me if I'm going to try for a third baby to have a boy.

No.

I don't really WANT to have a boy to "complete" my family- I'd have loved a boy if I'd had one the last two times I carried a fetus to term buI I honestly don't really care about the whole "pass on the family name" thing or the "family jewels" thing etc. Plus the whole circumcision thing (which I don't want, but which would be pressured upon me by family and such), the amount of CARING ABOUT FAMILY TRADITIONS BECAUSE BOY (I am not religious so sorry, not going to get my children baptized, alcoholic bully father in law), etc would just be too stressful for me. Plus I like reusing my daughter's clothes for her younger sister. I think I'd be a bad mom to a boy- probably turn him all girly by accident and not be able to stand his male-hormonal-caused running around the house and breaking things shenanigans.

>_> Also I know that if I had a boy, my daughters would be ignored in lieu of the ALL IMPORTANT BOY by my parents and most of the family. So fuck that, I'm not using my hoo haa to make the gender that everyone prefers to see, give privilege to and otherwise hold above all others.

Besides, I'm pretty sure I am baby miracled out after this one, seeing as I'm supposed to be infertile.

Oni no Tenshi said...

It's easier than you think. Sure, there will be tough times when one is crying and the other needs you, but generally the baby/preschooler dichotomy isn't too bad. Of course, if you have a baby with colic or a special needs situation, I suggest lots and lots of support network help.

My daughter is in a preschool and the preschool parents got together and did a meal train for our first month after the baby was born. It was a HUGE help!

Roshni AaMom said...

I definitely don't want to go down that road again!! I'm so very happy with my two and enjoy bonding with two little people who can actually aritculate to me in their cute, quaint, wise ways!! Babies don't talk and are therefore boring after some time!

Janine Huldie said...

You said a mouthful here and every time I get asked if I want more kids, I am going to bring up your article and read them excerpts of just why there will be no more babies in our house. I am finally sleeping more at night and my girls are potty trained...enough said!!!

jenlarson said...

My kids are the same ages as yours, and I definitely agree with this one!!

kimmons said...

I don't miss having to buckle the kids in and out of the carseat all day long! Eventhough mine were good and didn't fight it! I shutter to think how crabby I'd have been if they were.

Old Cranky Mom of 2 - 5 and 11 years old.

Michelle said...

I couldn't agree more.... I'm happy where I am getting sleep and I only have one. People tell me all the time she needs a sibling. I am DONE and our daughter tells us all the time she's happy having us all to herself :)

Hopping Along said...

I must be one of the only people I know that had the easist baby in the world. While everything you say is true I still loved it. I would have another baby but never again as a full time working single mother:-)

Jen said...

Just wait until he starts school, the looks and comments get much worse. My daughter is an only, and when she started school last year, you would have thought I was some kind of monster for not having 4 or 5 other kids following me around.

MM3 said...

hallelujah chorus. the back pain section made me snort out loud.

I know I am done when we are out in public and I hear a baby and think, thank God that isn't me. I empathize, but I've done my time. Three times.

Milkshaken said...

Oh my GAAWD yes! Mine are 2yrs apart and I felt like just getting them buckled in was it's OWN JOB! And then I'd get them both buckled in, get all the shit into the car, get behind the wheel and sniff something.

Milkshaken said...

You have expressed sentiments I didn't even know I had. I know I don't want to bear, nurse, (NIGHT nurse), wean - the whole shebang any more people. I just hadn't articulated all these exact reasons.

Still, I've heard myself say I'd have another if they came at about 3 years old.

Briana said...

Speaking of mommy's...here's me hanging up my gloves about mommy wars....ughh...http://waltshaus.blogspot.com/2013/03/part-of-me.html

The Mean Mama said...

"The Shit" pretty much covers what I won't miss. I feel so free just getting rid of ougrown clothes!

RachRiot said...

What's really funny is my hubs has more "baby pangs" than I do. Of course! But who got the hemorrhoids? Who sat on an ice pack for three days? Who got up for all the 3am feedings? My last child was colicky, too. That experience pretty much shut the baby-factory down, right there. We went to Dr. Snip-Snip as soon as I was able to drive him there.

Talia Jager said...

I have 6 kids - yup SIX! Ages 11 months to 15 years. I love them all, but that doesn't mean I don't have my moments. I'd like to go to the bathroom just once in peace. I never get to go! When I do find 3 seconds to pee, there's almost always a little child on the other side of the door banging on it or sticking their fingers under it or asking a stupid question that couldn't possibly wait a minute until I got out (like could they have a snack or could I put Dora on AGAIN - using my magic remote that'll reach from the bathroom). And since I carry my iPhone in my pocket, it's usually in the bathroom with me and wouldn't you know it… my 15 or 12 year old can't pass up the opportunity to text me while I'm on the toilet and ask me something. When it gets real bad, I will go to the bathroom with the light off so they can't tell that I'm in there. I long for the days when I can go in peace.

As for the shit, it got less and less with each kid. With the first, I had everything but the kitchen sink in my diaper bag. Now with the sixth, I'm lucky to have a diaper with me.

We're done having kids and my husband keeps telling me how much I'm going to miss this (this being whatever I'm going through at that moment) and yes, I probably will, but only for a split second. I can't wait to get all the baby toys out of my house, sleep through the night, not have to change a diaper, or wash spit up off another shirt. I look forward to going to the movies instead of staying home with the little ones while the big kids get to go or out to eat without screaming kids. Most of all, I look forward to using the bathroom in peace. Oh and eating chocolate without hearing, "Not fair, Mommy, we want some too!"

As always, thanks for making me laugh and letting me know I'm not alone.

Mrs. Farmer said...

I've got a way to go before 40, but I had my kids early. So while I have teenagers, my sisters and HS friends have toddlers (and sometimes babies). When I hold them they always say, "Awww... doesn't it make you want to have another?"

NO

If my kids are anything like me, I could be looking at GRANDCHILDREN before I'm 40 (even without a teen pregnancy). For all the reasons you stated above (plus the idea of having hormones and diapers in the same household at once), I think I'll wait for the grandkids, thanks.

rstuck2003 said...

You forgot about the baby that cries and cries and NOTHING helps to make it stop! I had one of those...she is now 24 and has a 2 1/2 year old!! My stepdaughter is expecting TWIN boys in June...God help us all as we are going to need it!!

Amy said...

I have twin boys, which are plenty. They are 4 now, and the idea of having another baby fills me with dread. Husband and I wanted 2, we got 2, we're done.

Even if we wanted another, we can't afford it...we are practically counting the days until 1st grade when the childcare costs will be a quarter of what they are now.

I used to get the "Are you going to try for a girl?" a lot. Oddly (to me), more when the boys were babies. What? Two isn't enough for you? Most of the people who asked also had two children with no intentions of having more. It's like since I got 2 children from one pregnancy, I cheated or something, and they don't count as 2.

TNMom said...

I worked 4pm-midnight for the first 5 years of my first daughters life, she got up for a 2 am feeding for A LONG TIME!! (at least her whole first year, and I think I pushed keeping her on a bottle even past that) I LIKED it!! She was easy, pretty quick, and I missed her so in the evenings that I LOVED our 2 am snuggle time.
Anyways, yes, I am with you - turning 39 this May, hubby is snipped, I am DONE! Two is such a nice round even number. And while they grow way too fast, each "annoying" part that passes is one I dont have to revisit ever again...can anyone say "light at the end of the tunnel"??? <3 Devan

tbaz said...

This is my list of why I don't want any more babies (Mine are 10 and 13 now). I don't have to: wipe butts, cut meat, put on coats, carry them, bathe them, or put on shoes. Well, at least usually. They can: get their own snacks, cook (in the microwave) those days I am feeling lazy or busy, entertain themselves, have a conversation that is more than one sided. My childcare bill was at $280 per week at its highest. It is now about $60 for after school care.

Nope...no more babies

Jaime Schmitt said...

I don't want to have another kid because a) I'm terrible at multi-tasking, I can barely divide my time between the husband and the kid and b) my body still hasn't recovered from number 1 and he turned 5 a few months ago!

trackpantsandatot.com said...

I've been called selfish because I only want one child. He's 9 months now & of course I miss him being a little peanut that would always fall asleep on me, but I don't miss those sleepless nights for me & hubs, day & night confusion that the baby had, and cabin fever since I was told to avoid large crowds in the very beginning. He's a pretty good baby, but between him & the dog, I have my hands full.
I'm a new mom & even I think there's too much useless crap out there. There was one contraption I saw at Buy Buy Baby that removes the sand from your skin at the beach... you know.... cuz a damp washcloth won't do the same.

Jennifer said...

My baby is 17, but I watched my 6 month old niece for two months. First day out the door with her in her carrier, and a diaper bag full of crap (they use cloth diapers) in the snow, I told her... this is why women my age don't have babies (I am 45). And they are first time parents, so I got a LOT of instructions...

Natalie said...

Amen to that!

So Sad For The Children said...

I am glad you are not having any more children because you might name them like you did Gomer and Adolpha, and ruin some more
lives.

Beth said...

I had to laugh at the duct tape comment! I used one of those black binder clips to hold the blanket closed when I swaddled my son! I could not for the life of me get it to stay wrapped and they didn't have those fancy schmancy swaddling blankets they have now. I was desperate!!

Beth said...

Hey Ms. Judgy I think she uses those as "aliases" for her kids.

r/b said...

You do know that men smell babies heads, too, right? This line of yours damn near killed me ...."get my baby huff on".......
Huff away....Some of us get that totally.

rjrmommy said...

Amen! I had my 5th last year at age 44.

What is thing she speaks of....sleep??

rjrmommy said...

I had 3 boys then a girl (then a boy, but that's another story). Go for it!! It really is so lovely to see pink and dollies around the house!

HEATHER HOLTER said...

I remember the craziness of having a baby or 2 or 3 in the house and now I don't have to deal with all that. Now it's a new kind of crazy with 5 kids age 5-11. Easier in some ways than 5 kids under 6, but harder in a lot of ways too.

Moments Photography of Miami, FL http://www.MomentPho.com said...

I'm the same way. The first kid sure, but on the second and third a change of clothes, a few diapers, wipes, and a toy or book each. But if they bring it they have to carry it.

We do keep a box in the trunk of the car for spontaneity, which includes swim clothes, extra diapers/wipes, changes of clothes for everyone, toothbrush, paste, first aid kit, external battery charger, and socks. It's a small box that doesn't tale up hardly any room and allows us to not worry about packing or changing clothes, or needing socks for this or that so we can be spontaneous and do whatever without a worry.

Also all three have slept through the night since they were a couple of weeks old. They also take long afternoon naps.

Having children doesn't have to be stressful if you're creative and able to just relax and enjoy. We want more. Though I do understand when people only want one. Financially things can be a lot harder, which can be time consuming to make life fun and yet not spend a ton.

Karla Clark said...

Be careful, WordChazer. I have a friend who was just like you and after 20+ years of she and her husband accepting the fact she would never have children, she suddenly found herself pregnant at age 45. To say it was a shock is putting it mildly.

Michaela said...

I didn't want anymore kids. Then I found out early February my husband cheated on me and knocked up some other broad. I'm sure reading this you might think its a joke (being April 1st) but I assure you its NOT. So I guess if we work it out . . . I get another g***amn kid. FML.

myspecialkindofcrazy said...

I had my first at 39 and 2nd at 42! Halle Berry was 47! 40 is a spring chicken when it comes to having babies!

Ashley J. said...

I am the mommy of three boys (6, almost 5, and 1 yr). If there was a sniff of a girl, I would be heavily tempted. Although I joke to my hubby that he probably only has Y chromosomes floating in that body of his :)

Stella Babakhanova said...

Thank you for putting that together.it's nice to relate. I often think I am the only one insane enough to have done all those things. I have a 5 and a 6 year-old boys, but still thinking about baby number 3.

Stella Babakhanova said...

Thank you for putting that together.it's nice to relate. I often think I am the only one insane enough to have done all those things. I have a 5 and a 6 year-old boys, but still thinking about baby number 3.

Kimberly Head said...

I'm 33 and my kids are 10 and 6 year old twins, I sm so glad I had children younger...I am finally feeling somewhat free again! I could not imagine having a baby now or when I'm 40, when im 40 i will be living it up with no toddlers running around lol!

Megan Kingston said...

I agree completely! I read these "horror stories" about these parents with 2 and 3 year olds that get no sleep and I think to myself how lucky I must be cause I'm 4 kids deep, my youngest being 2 1/2 months and he already sleeps thru the night, as did his siblings early on.....I LOVE the baby phase ..it goes too fast and before you know it "the shit" isn't there anymore! To each their own of course but I would not change a thing! :)

So Sad For The Children said...

I am glad you know that.

Erika Park said...

We got the 4th boy here. He's now just over a year and it's gone pretty smoothly. Life is busy, but more because the older ones do activities than because of the 4th kid. Sleep, on the other hand, what I wouldn't give for a few nights of solid sleep.

Kim Elder said...

Yea I have a 3 week old and Im a single mother. Im tired but it isnt that bad for me. I love caring for her and wish I could slow down time. I very much want another one. I dont really carry too much in my diaper bag. I think it has alot to do with the age that you start having kids. Im 34 and feel im more patient and was ready. Anyways Im only 3 weeks deep but Im not seeing all the stress yet.