The baby has been born. She's a little girl. She's two. She's biracial. Her lesbian mothers are suing because even though they "love" her and wouldn't "change" anything about her, they want damages.
Am I the only person who sees a problem here?
As the mother of biracial children (my children are half Asian half Caucasian) I am offended and insulted that these women see their biracial child as a mistake and something worthy of a lawsuit. They can yell from the rooftops about how much they love their little biracial daughter, but when they chose to bring a lawsuit, I have to call bullshit.
The little girl, Payton, is only two years old right now, but how will her parents look her in the eye someday and say, "This wasn't about the way you looked. This was about medical malpractice." Can you imagine? We loved you so much, Payton, that we got thousands of dollars when you were born the wrong color. But you're perfect. Don't change.
If this was about negligence, then a letter to the company would have sufficed. Bringing it to the attention of the media would have worked too. If all they wanted to do was to warn other couples that this happens, they could have done that without a lawsuit. This story was sexy enough without the lawsuit: lesbians, sperm donors, and medical mixups. When a daycare feeds the wrong breast milk to a baby, it's front page news. This could have been too.
They could have asked for a refund since this was a business transaction and it was mishandled. But demanding damages says there's something wrong with this child. There's nothing wrong with her. She's biracial. She's not what they expected. That's not a defect. And yet that's how she's being treated. That is the message that is being sent to their daughter and to other biracial kids: You're not worthy. You're a problem. You're a mistake. Their poor daughter.
They're also blaming their town for this lawsuit. When they were pregnant, they moved to a predominantly white, conservative town where they could raise their white child. Now that they've got a biracial kid, they're going to need to move. Hold up. This conservative town was OK with lesbians, but not OK with biracial kids? I'm not buying what they're selling.
Maybe I hold them to a higher standard because they're lesbians. I would hope that people facing discrimination most of their lives would have more tolerance and understanding than to label their biracial child as a mistake for the rest of her life.