Dear Dylan Farrow,
I read your letter.
I believe you.
I've always believed you.
I'm sorry that more people don't believe you.
I'm sorry that even though the prosecutor in your case believed you, he let you down by choosing not to go forward because he didn't want to "traumatize" you any further. I can't think of anything more traumatic than being swept under a rug.
I'm sorry that Hollywood continues to heap praise and accolades and awards on your abuser.
I'm sorry that A-list actors continue to clamor to work with your abuser.
I'm sure it's nice to hear that you have my support, but really what does it mean? That I won't go see a Woody Allen film ever again or I write a blog post saying I believe you? That's not a whole lot is it? I'm sorry I don't have the power those A-list actors have.
The A-listers are the biggest problem, aren't they? They're the enablers. They're the ones who continue to make it an honor to work with abusers like Woody Allen. They're the ones who turn a blind eye when someone like Woody Allen or Roman Polanski do horrible things to little girls.
I'm sorry that those A-listers don't look around the dinner table at the faces of their young children and think about your question: "What if it was your child?"
I'm sorry they hide behind hollow phrases like "I don't need to comment on this family's personal struggle."
Yes. Yes, you do need to comment. We all need to comment. For far too long our silence has allowed abusers to continue their despicable behavior. We think it isn't our business to interfere, but if we don't interfere - especially to protect a child - then who will? In this case staying silent says that talent trumps evil.
The thing is the A-listers are the only ones who will ever be able to make a difference for the Dylans of the world when their abusers are powerful men in Hollywood.
Your letter was the first step, Dylan. Good for you for finally speaking up - for yourself and other victims who can't speak up yet.
Hopefully, someone powerful will speak up and support you. Hopefully, someone will realize it isn't right to hide behind meaningless responses to your struggles. Hopefully, a brave and powerful person will publicly refuse to work with your abuser and then things will start to change. My hope is that the next time a script from Woody Allen arrives on the desk of someone like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt, they will take a look at their kids and then they'll decline and let the world know why they declined.
I'm only one person. I made my decision a long time ago not to support Woody Allen and his movies. I always got a creeper vibe from him and then when he ran off with Mia Farrow's adopted daughter, Soon-Yi, that settled it for me. I don't care if she wasn't legally his daughter, he was her mother's long time boyfriend and he married his children's sister. He's their dad and their brother-in-law?
I don't care how talented he is. I don't care how much money he makes. I don't care how many people support him. I don't. And I never will.
I believe you, Dylan.
There are many of us who do. You're not alone.
Lots of people are sharing that "Not So Fast" article and I just wanted to share one myself:
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