tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post9090150987585857892..comments2023-10-14T09:44:21.840-05:00Comments on People I Want to Punch in the Throat: Why My Children Have No Right to PrivacyJen Piwtpitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09576108150881254072noreply@blogger.comBlogger351125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-3305723108520888942022-12-19T19:20:10.555-06:002022-12-19T19:20:10.555-06:00If you were my Mom I think I would just kill mysel...If you were my Mom I think I would just kill myself. And before you continue having the absolute fucking audacity to deny a child something that they are born with the right to consider that they will 100% go no contact with you once they are 18.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07806254414525832657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-6194352970189193602022-07-23T21:23:39.514-05:002022-07-23T21:23:39.514-05:00My problem is my mom knows how uncomfortable this ...My problem is my mom knows how uncomfortable this is and shares stuff like this as a joke for example my mom used to tell everyone who she found out my sister had a crush on even the crush and his parents it didn't need to be shared at all bug she still did anyway and she knows that I hate when people talk about my body or clothes yet instead of offering to buy me new clothes she just comments about how my clothes are too small and I need bigger ones I would ask for more but then she would let anyone and everyone know that I'm the one who wants new clothes and she has to buy the it's the most toxic relationship I've ever dealt with and though you have some decent points I wouldn't be the way I am if she gave me privacy like I get at my dad's houseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-41834784839057769012022-06-12T16:42:16.861-05:002022-06-12T16:42:16.861-05:00Tell that to you son or daughter posting on social...Tell that to you son or daughter posting on social media at 2 am<br />Congratulate them on encouraging people to voice there opinions on the simple pic or quote <br />Welcome to weeks of mental torture. But congratulations on your parenting and giving them the privacy. Ur never now about them suffering in silence Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-22876561062672803452022-02-01T14:14:48.416-06:002022-02-01T14:14:48.416-06:00My parents pulled the no privacy crap on me. I co...My parents pulled the no privacy crap on me. I couldnt wait to leave home. When I turned 18, I got a job moved to an apartment with friends. Never spoke to nasty sperm and egg donors again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-43608889677867329102021-12-16T22:29:51.769-06:002021-12-16T22:29:51.769-06:00I wish my parents hadn't given me privacy, whe...I wish my parents hadn't given me privacy, when I think of all the things I got away with because my parents respected my privacy and felt I should make my own choices/ mistakes -its a miracle I wasn't kidnapped, taped or killed. <br />Now as a mother of two preteens I'm terrified of my kids doing the same things. Thank you for speaking up and against this insane notion. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-21453700872529295882021-06-16T12:48:22.108-05:002021-06-16T12:48:22.108-05:00My whore of a mother was like that and she still d...My whore of a mother was like that and she still doesn't understand why I threw her senile ass into the retirement house and forgot the way there.<br />Soon to be 10 years since I did that. No fucking regrets.Bartyshevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07609700604843310312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-45341095515401861722021-02-24T16:24:41.255-06:002021-02-24T16:24:41.255-06:00I disagree on reading a Child's Diary cause a ...I disagree on reading a Child's Diary cause a Diary is Private and I know parents are worried about their child but this sounds like helicopter Parenting.SERY JADA8765https://www.blogger.com/profile/02060330073427259692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-7627984220706663892021-02-04T18:06:15.238-06:002021-02-04T18:06:15.238-06:00All you are accomplishing is raising kids that tha...All you are accomplishing is raising kids that that will be sneaky, and untrusting and resentful of authority and possibly of you. Based off the wording in this article I think you likely have a deep seated control issues and possibly narcissistic tendencies. My parents had no respect for my boundaries or privacy growing up, and all it did was make me a better liar. As soon as I was out of those house I went off the deep end and made a lot of mistakes that I now regret. I deeply resented them because they treated me like a possession rather than a human, and subconsciously I think I wanted to spite them by doing the opposite of the principles they forced on me. I’ve recognized now what it is that I want out of my life and I’m now focusing on that instead of sabotaging my self, but it was a long journey of introspection to reach that point. I know you believe you’re helping your children by making decisions for them, but all you’re accomplishing is depriving them of the time to make mistakes while still in the safety of your house. Those situations you mentioned will still be lessons that your children will need to learn later in life, and life is a lot less forgiving the older you get.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-973682099220769902021-02-04T16:15:45.356-06:002021-02-04T16:15:45.356-06:00What is wrong with all of you? Allowing your child...What is wrong with all of you? Allowing your child to have no privacy is just as bad as total privacy, if not worse. You are concerned for your child, so you read their diaries or go through their phones, and your child knows that. If your child was struggling and didn't want you to know, they wouldn't write it down because they know you would see it. That makes it worse for them because they can't discuss that with their friends or write it down to vent. I understand that you are worried for your child but there's better ways of expressing that. Educating them the dangers on doing or saying inappropriate things on the internet and having an open and trusting relationship with them instead of having no privacy is so much more effective. You don't just have to be a parent, you can be their friend. They are so much more likely to open up if they feel like they can trust you and not punishing them when they come to you for help. They will be more eager to build a trusting and open relationship with you if they know you will understand and respect their opinions. It teaches your child to respect other peoples privacy and not become abusive in future relationships. Letting your child know that they can talk to a therapist or someone they can trust with confidentiality can also help build your relationship with them by respecting their boundaries. Not respecting your child's privacy is considered trauma and is totally inappropriate as a parent.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05543882722589280950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-68796202314678844132021-01-26T17:10:03.053-06:002021-01-26T17:10:03.053-06:00 Do you also beat your kids black and blue when ... Do you also beat your kids black and blue when they disagree with your control freak craziness?<br /><br /> Or are they already too mindbroken and brainwashed for even a slightest display of free will?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-9535037220752297312021-01-03T15:34:19.750-06:002021-01-03T15:34:19.750-06:00I have to disagree with you, karen
what you are s...I have to disagree with you, karen<br /><br />what you are saying is that you want to be a nosy mother and make your children uncomfortable, which is not okay. your children should have a right of privacy and YOU SHOULD RESPECT THAT!!<br /><br />if you strip away your children's right of privacy, you are also technically abusing your children psychologically, mentally, and emotionally.<br /><br />i hope you understand thatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-70179899156103762020-12-10T15:57:11.913-06:002020-12-10T15:57:11.913-06:00People like you disgust me. Kids have reasons for ...People like you disgust me. Kids have reasons for wanting privacy. Your the one who decided to have kids, they didn't make that choice, you did. This is the kind of thing that destroys relationships. I wasn't allowed to shut doors when I was younger and that fact still upsets me to this day. I wasn't allowed to shut the door when I showered, when I changed, when my sibling wouldn't leave me alone. From what I've seen, your likely homophobic so I'll just get hate from you but let me tell you that it's worth it from what I've seen here. I'm pansexual. I had recently been questioning my sexuality and did so on a group chat with a few of my close friends who also felt similarly. I told them about my friends and they actually met them and enjoyed their company. They forced me out of the closet over dinner in front of my siblings and then proceeded to try and manipulate and lecture me on how I was a terrible human being. I still haven't forgiven them for almost disowning me had I not taken it back and said I was 'confused', I lied. This kind of thing can cause suicide just as much as it prevents it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-82822375541955816762020-12-06T18:01:49.938-06:002020-12-06T18:01:49.938-06:00I'd like to start off by saying I'm a twel...I'd like to start off by saying I'm a twelve year old child. Yes, once you know my age you probably won't read on, but for those of you who do, thank you for doing so. My mother is emotionally abusive in some ways, and one of those ways is lack of privacy. I'm going to cut to the point, I fought back. Secret codes, locks, deleting search history- I did them all. But my mother continued. In the end, two police threats from me and her smashing my hand-me-down phone in front of my eyes was all it took to break our mother-daughter bond. Took some tests for anxiety and depression and all of them said I have severe cases. Life for me has gotten better once my mother backed down a little, but I'm not here to share my life story. Please respect your child's privacy. If you don't they will most likely turn into a jittery, worried mess or go no contact with you when they are adults. <br /><br />Thank you for reading this far. If it's not too much trouble, please check out this website, r/raisedbynarcissists for examples of abuse and how to avoid them. It also explains what no contact is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-51336163200192901702020-11-27T22:53:26.182-06:002020-11-27T22:53:26.182-06:00What the heck is this? This is child abuse. They c...What the heck is this? This is child abuse. They can not go somewhere without being stalked, going through a diary is like having someone go through your head and take out every thought they have, and children back then at your time were raised not like this, and there has not been crime rate spike. What you are teaching them is to not have a diary, create a secret YouTube channel and other accounts, change your passwords, lie with every word, delete every text once you got it in your head, delete search history, and this is just terrible. Please change your actions, if they never did anything to be suspicious of, then there is no need. No one will write diaries just for you to look through, they will not text only call, they will outplay you. They will probably post all your thoughts and everything you say on Twitter and reddit, look through your stuff, and do whatever torture you did unto them. You should go to a mental correction facility, and everyone here for my cause is correct. You have no empathy, this is just so fucked up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-61942911658592253472020-11-15T14:28:57.020-06:002020-11-15T14:28:57.020-06:00Wow some people really will have kids just to have...Wow some people really will have kids just to have power that they can abuse someone with, huh?Jennienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-41607298826670334702020-10-06T11:35:40.851-05:002020-10-06T11:35:40.851-05:00Yes get the f#$k out if you are over 18.Yes get the f#$k out if you are over 18.Garrett Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02819345881194572226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-78998360470514882222020-09-30T18:11:23.777-05:002020-09-30T18:11:23.777-05:00As an adult still living under my parent's roo...As an adult still living under my parent's roof, I feel sick reading this blog. I can't believe that some parents are very vocal and PROUD to disrespect their child's privacy. Sure they're not old enough to be on their own but at least, give them some freedom. And as they grow older, give them more freedom. This is outright stepping in overprotective territory. I can even say that this post is b*sh$t. You know what I was thinking mid-way as I was reading the blog, LEAVING YOUR PARENTS' HOUSE is the surest way to escape from their grasp. If you're a parent reading this, teach your child to be independent! If you're a teen or an adult having problems with overprotective parents, and who don't teach you how to be independent, BE SMART AND ESCAPE THE HOUSE! MOVE OUT AND TAKE YOUR FREEDOM BACK!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-330578020819708932020-09-27T20:20:29.818-05:002020-09-27T20:20:29.818-05:00This is why I hate my mother now and want to kill ...This is why I hate my mother now and want to kill myself because I never received trust and respect and I have no self esteem or understanding of self respect. I hate my parents and myself for exactly the things you wrote. My mother has the same mind as you. And I am suffering every day because of that. Why would you care?you are a narcissistic toxic person. You should go to therapy before harming your kids further..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-24325929160185739362020-08-18T15:09:55.645-05:002020-08-18T15:09:55.645-05:00When I mean harmless, I mean it probably won't...When I mean harmless, I mean it probably won't do any damage, in that your kid doesn't even know you are spying on them. If they do, well....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-45527836037596089542020-08-18T14:51:09.666-05:002020-08-18T14:51:09.666-05:00I would say that kids deserve a right to privacy, ...I would say that kids deserve a right to privacy, you don't invade their personal life, read their thoughts, and snoop around in their cyberspace unless you think they are at risk of inappropriate material or access to unsafe websites. As a parent, you're supposed to maintain a healthy boundary of trust and security. No matter what you do to stop them being exposed to a "bad influence", they are going to find a way around it, and burn the bridges of trust between you. If you are concerned about their safety, develop a relationship where you can can talk to them about what's right and wrong and explain why something is not appropriate. These are my thoughts, and I would consider what you did harmless at 5 but not constructive for say a kid 10+.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-28561071976560816222020-08-02T06:45:53.922-05:002020-08-02T06:45:53.922-05:00My best friend gave me a diary in the 8th grade. T...My best friend gave me a diary in the 8th grade. The first page was a note from her telling me this was a journal for me to Express my feelings, instead of bottling them up. My parents do not believe in privacy, which I was not aware of. They went through my things, found it, read it, read it to people they thought "needed to know what was going on," read it to counselors at school, basically it felt like anyone who would listen. I had never been suicidal before until this experience. I saw that journal as an outlet to get my feelings out so I didnt act on them. Taking away a safe space for a child to express his or her feelings under the guise that they're a kid and have no rights to any privacy whatsoever is dangerous.That was 22 years ago. Reading this article was extremely painful. I've never trusted my parents again. I never told them about my struggles. I never told them about how horrible they made me feel about myself.I was never approached to discuss the situation I was simply told there was something wrong with me that needed to be fixed. That feeling has never gone away. I'm now 34. That experience layed the groundwork for my relationship with my parents for life. I dont trust them. I dont tell them anything. I dont hug them. I dont let them touch me.They know nothing of my real struggle with depression and they never will. I moved out 6 years ago. Feeling like an adult with my own space and my own privacy was life changing. I healed so much. A year ago I was in a tough spot and asked to move home. They graciously offered me my old room back and made a point to tell me it was MY space. They lied. They are constantly in my room without my knowledge. I run a successful small business. When I was about 15 I asked my high school counselor to help me find a psychiatrist. I hit the jackpot and ended up with the most amazing woman I've ever met or probably will meet in my life. She saved my life, literally, many times. She gave me a safe space and she was someone I actually let myself trust. She died unexpectedly in March, just before corona started hitting the US. It has been the worst thing thats ever happened to me. Ik trying to work with a new person and let me tell you, going over my childhood experiences with a new person 20 years later isnt pretty. Know what she recommends? A journal. Write it down, get it out, close the book. I started writing letters to my friend, I never got to say goodbye to her and I dont plan to. I came into my room yesterday and all my things were moved. Both of my parents were in my room under the guise they needed to make sure my windows were locked, I had no idea. They moved a lot of my things around. It's the same old shit. Their house so no matter what I'm a child and they can do what they want. I will not write another letter to my incredible friend whom I miss more than I can put into words again while I live in this house. I am putting my grieving on hold which is a very dangerous game. I will not write in my journal again until I am able to move out again. I have no idea when you wrote this I cant find a date. Maybe your kids are all grown up now and live normal happy lives, maybe they're even thankful you gave them no privacy as a child. Maybe it helped them. It destroyed me. I resent my parents right down to my bones. They know nothing of my real self, and never will. I dont trust anyone, have few friends, and have never been on a date. I keep everything to myself and think everyone is out to get me. It is a miserable existence that could have been avoided if I was treated like the mature young adult that I was. I thought I was doing the right thing by writing it down and not acting it out. I admire the tenacity you approached with raising your children. Its wonderful that you cared so much. I'm writing all this out in the event that if there is another full grown adult sobbing in their bed googling 'my parents don't respect my privacy' at 7am on a Sunday and come across this I want them to know I see you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-7693677866289246712020-04-24T14:11:55.990-05:002020-04-24T14:11:55.990-05:00I understand some of your points about wanting to ...I understand some of your points about wanting to make sure everything is well with your kids, however I don't think reading the private journal of any child is a good way to inspire a healthy relationship. When I was 13, I found out my mother was reading my diary, and it was an awful feeling to say the least. In response, I stopped writing entirely. I never spoke openly with either of my parents, and became extra careful not to leave any evidence as to what I was doing, however innocent my activities were. I had no support line, because I was afraid that anything I said or wrote would be infiltrated by my parents. My relationship with my mother continues to be very strained, just because she didn't think I should have the right to keep a private journal. Think twice before invading your kids privacy, chances are they will still find a way o hide things from you, and lose all trust and respect for you in the process.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-4121135446594017032020-04-20T16:05:27.259-05:002020-04-20T16:05:27.259-05:00Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl in highschool. I co...Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl in highschool. I completely and utterly disagree, my mother and I are super close and I tell her just about everything(although it wont be immediately) when I was just a mere 15 year old I started secretly dating a 19 year old, it didnt end good and he pressured me into things I didn't like. I learned from my mistakes. I told my mother after I had turned 16 and she hugged me while I cried into her arms. She was there for me afterwards and thats all that matters, the things we do when we are younger do no define us. We are young and do stupid things but we mature and learn. Let us learn instead of breaking that trust barrier. I'm a feminist, I go to protests, I stand up for my rights, and I've recently gotten accepted to a good college at only 16 years old. We are more capable than many people think. Me and my mom have an even bigger bond than before and I show her everything on my own accord. Let us trust you to show us the things that matter the most. I recently told my mom of my depression and shes been taking me to a therapist about it. Ask them about their feelings about things. Ask them unique questions you wouldnt ask a child/teen. I used to be afraid to be judged by my parents and get in trouble for the simple things or get made fun of for doing something I love, my father used to make fun of my love for art and the things i drew so I stopped. I'm saying that if you give us a chance to trust you and show us these private matters than you would be surprised. Most of my friends have terrible relationships with their parents and if you just make an effort to love and cherish them then maybe you wouldnt have to deal with suicidal thoughts.Lizihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918167279389678923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-83931765951118277862020-04-03T20:33:17.464-05:002020-04-03T20:33:17.464-05:00I haven't spoken to my mother in 15 years. Sh...I haven't spoken to my mother in 15 years. She's never even met her grandchildren. Welcome to your future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-27418962017022598702020-04-01T08:31:46.987-05:002020-04-01T08:31:46.987-05:00Gosh you are a horrible parent with self righteous...Gosh you are a horrible parent with self righteous notions of being a good parent. What is parenting? It's to guide children into becoming strong individuals who can think for themselves and contribute to the world. What is bad and what is good? Being obedient is not everything. Do you actually want your kids to be your pets? A successful parent should guide but by no means control. Whether good or bad decisions are made by your kids, ultimately you will have to trust them to make their own decisions in whatever way they decide to explore this life of theirs. Just because you gave birth to them doesn't mean you control their life. If not, what difference is there than them being slaves or pets?who?https://www.blogger.com/profile/01701270928270560727noreply@blogger.com