tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post817044819263558105..comments2023-10-14T09:44:21.840-05:00Comments on People I Want to Punch in the Throat: MORE Rules for Parents of DaughtersJen Piwtpitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09576108150881254072noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-78476390315464744152015-01-27T09:31:31.788-06:002015-01-27T09:31:31.788-06:00Love this list! I think an important addition to ...Love this list! I think an important addition to all of these is to model these behaviors yourself. Kids don't learn from what you say nearly as much as they learn from what you do. If you want your daughter to have a positive body image, don't go around talking about how fat you are. If you want her to have good manners, demonstrate them in your everyday life. And so on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-32949570926130007982015-01-26T17:57:33.599-06:002015-01-26T17:57:33.599-06:00I have twin 17-year old daughters and love this li...I have twin 17-year old daughters and love this list as much as the first one! One more:<br />Teach your daughter to be kind and model that kindness: Say hello to the tollbooth operator; hold doors open for others; ask the checkout person how their day is going; tip generously; buy the homeless person a sandwich; be patient with elderly drivers, etc.<br />Helenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01761121057161343704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-83740599508024587892015-01-26T14:53:38.431-06:002015-01-26T14:53:38.431-06:00Teach your daughter that life is not a romance nov...Teach your daughter that life is not a romance novel, and that "falling in love with" a married man is not "forbidden love," but rather hurtful to those involved on the periphery - especially that married man's children. Teach her that she can get her own partner and not to fall for "the marriage was over before you got here" because that's usually a lie. Teach her self-respect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-33427033375420476862014-02-04T17:58:56.939-06:002014-02-04T17:58:56.939-06:00I think one big one is to teach body positivity. Y...I think one big one is to teach body positivity. You've mentioned things along the lines of avoiding those teen magazines, but it's also important to instill confidence yourself. There is a great article about this..."When Your Mother Says She's Fat" http://www.rolereboot.org/life/details/2013-06-when-your-mother-says-shes-fat Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00311629977573811842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-41251083229742120582014-01-31T21:58:48.637-06:002014-01-31T21:58:48.637-06:00One additional comment on #12 above, I always told...One additional comment on #12 above, I always told my children, sons and daughters, that there were two parts to the apology, the spoken part "I am sorry", and the implied part, I'll never do it again. Apologies were one-time events and if they repeated the behavior then we needed to talk about it because if they apologized for something and were really contrite, I expected them to not do it again. It's something they have always remembered and have even told me that they share with their friends, that if they apologize, they only get one attempt and they shouldn't do it again. Gulp, that was a lesson well learned.Enlightening Life Yourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01608243229321735549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-60545047230476891122014-01-30T11:32:20.999-06:002014-01-30T11:32:20.999-06:00That's a great point. I HATE when I give a co...That's a great point. I HATE when I give a compliment and you get some argument about why it's not true either due to genuine low self esteem or false humility. Either way it's annoying! Just, please, say Thank You. It's actually easier than going on about how fat, dumb, ugly, badly coiffed you think you are! (And you probably aren't anyway.)Periwinkle Paisleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08746575926852682354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-6128524200635682342014-01-29T19:04:26.549-06:002014-01-29T19:04:26.549-06:00Read this then saw the Subaru commercial where the...Read this then saw the Subaru commercial where the dad ha his daughter change the tire in the rain. Faithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17016114008965506376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-7938585101928437912014-01-29T18:40:23.948-06:002014-01-29T18:40:23.948-06:00My parents wouldn't even let me take my driver...My parents wouldn't even let me take my driver's test until I could change a tire. At the time, I thought they were being terribly unfair, but I've since become very grateful for knowing how. I've even had to teach a few guys over the years. Basic home repair skills are good to know too. I'm still working on getting over my fear of mice in the house. I don't have a bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15444651334693517433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-56661128617113760272014-01-29T15:01:54.030-06:002014-01-29T15:01:54.030-06:00I don't have any girls, but most of this stuff...I don't have any girls, but most of this stuff I wish my parents had done with me. They never taught me how to manage my money, change a tire, or how to accept a compliment with grace. I had to learn all of those things the hard way, and I'm teaching my boys and nieces.<br /><br /><br />Boys too, need to be taught to accept compliments gracefully, to have confidence in their abilities and to have the strength to stand for their beliefs. I see so many little boys being raised without a father figure, and going to extremes to fit in; being a brash bully to prove their masculinity, or becoming overly quiet and acquiescent to fit in with the girls. <br /><br />All children need to be taught to just be themselves. No matter what you might believe in, humans are uniquely and wonderfully made, and I think we've lost sight of that simple fact.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13184464773122257450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-81963834579615980982014-01-29T07:29:13.945-06:002014-01-29T07:29:13.945-06:00I once had a boss teach me how to change a tire (2...I once had a boss teach me how to change a tire (25+ years ago). He told me I had to learn how because if I really needed to do it, I would be under duress. I said I'd probably be in A DRESS, too.Mosaicwenchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16598291052129062297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-4785119829339942232014-01-28T19:42:34.899-06:002014-01-28T19:42:34.899-06:00I totally agree!I totally agree!Sammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16391644154490695663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-15261641968311645852014-01-28T19:00:27.705-06:002014-01-28T19:00:27.705-06:00Although I will add that if your daughter does nee...Although I will add that if your daughter does need to be told she's pretty, please reassure her. I was decidedly an ugly duckling, very awkward as an adolescent, and though I knew my parents were biased, at least I heard the words: "You're pretty."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-49067833280136913822014-01-28T16:11:58.817-06:002014-01-28T16:11:58.817-06:00Great list (the previous ones, too). But exceptin...Great list (the previous ones, too). But excepting #10, all of these can apply to boys as well.... Perhaps the list should just be "Rules for Parents". Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03935307837478703939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-83591544604285620292014-01-28T15:16:03.007-06:002014-01-28T15:16:03.007-06:00Let your daughter's know that they will always...Let your daughter's know that they will always be your children, and you will always be their mom. I have daughters who are adults now, but they will always be my babies and I will continue to teach them, as well as learn from them, with lots of love!TaraLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05674698361054508190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-70560831194330623762014-01-28T14:58:28.449-06:002014-01-28T14:58:28.449-06:00Love this! We're dealing with #3 a lot these d...Love this! We're dealing with #3 a lot these days. I try to tell my daughter that it's better to be different, to be the odd ball, than to fit in any day!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17614632753060594044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-64926824494852373782014-01-28T14:38:26.363-06:002014-01-28T14:38:26.363-06:00Great list.
I struggle with trying to keep my d...Great list. <br />I struggle with trying to keep my daughter from becoming too sassy -- but I don't want to completely stamp out that bit of "spit fire" that she has. It's a very fine line.<br />Yikes. I have no idea how to change a tire. Better get hubby to teach us both. LA Botcharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09045857399816360885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-83312861809979065342014-01-28T14:18:30.204-06:002014-01-28T14:18:30.204-06:00I'm raising a hard-headed spitfire of a girl, ...I'm raising a hard-headed spitfire of a girl, and as much as she drives me crazy and we butt heads (because we are so alike) I secretly like it. She is fearless and confident. She will never depend on a man to define her. She's going to be just fine and in the end, that's all I want for her. RachRiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16555149721317451097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-18593332220393585842014-01-28T13:41:24.536-06:002014-01-28T13:41:24.536-06:00Absolutely! As a Britisher, I had to be taught thi...Absolutely! As a Britisher, I had to be taught this by a gracious American friend. She told me off for insulting her, by rejecting a compliment she wanted to pay me, and I have never forgotten it! Ingrid Wassenaarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13674889921807440527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-6765044645282525162014-01-28T12:43:23.544-06:002014-01-28T12:43:23.544-06:00I love this list. If anything happens to my husban...I love this list. If anything happens to my husband and me, you are getting my children. Congratulations! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00568034681803349166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-27483590636417361112014-01-28T12:08:57.591-06:002014-01-28T12:08:57.591-06:00Teach your daughters that good manners go both way...Teach your daughters that good manners go both ways. Please, thank you and you're welcome have become lost. <br /><br />Also teach your daughters that if they wish to be treated like a lady, they should behave like a lady.One Bad Pixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04139395145674594659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-7624951787090174592014-01-28T11:05:17.188-06:002014-01-28T11:05:17.188-06:00Teach your daughter to graciously accept a complim...Teach your daughter to graciously accept a compliment from anyone. Saying a hearty "thank you" when complimented goes a long way to empowerment (and feels so much better than denying or diminishing what is complimented).Mosaicwenchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16598291052129062297noreply@blogger.com