tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post4124165725421291602..comments2023-10-14T09:44:21.840-05:00Comments on People I Want to Punch in the Throat: TIME MagazineJen Piwtpitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09576108150881254072noreply@blogger.comBlogger261125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-52655591551444276132014-09-13T17:47:41.938-05:002014-09-13T17:47:41.938-05:00I don't see anything wrong with nursing until ...I don't see anything wrong with nursing until 3. It doesn't make anyone a child molester to do so, either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-54136649647980720992012-09-06T17:29:32.261-05:002012-09-06T17:29:32.261-05:00"Yeah, I'm mom enough. I don't need ..."Yeah, I'm mom enough. I don't need to put on my fabulous skinny jeans and whip out my itty bitty titty to feed my preschooler (I refuse to call that kid a "toddler") on the cover of a national magazine to prove it."<br /><br />I thought I was gonna die laughing when I read this. I love your blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-78358527995305029312012-06-05T07:45:49.300-05:002012-06-05T07:45:49.300-05:00I believe this would be a good time to use my new ...I believe this would be a good time to use my new favorite word.<br />Time Magazine...this article...the cover...creators....what a bunch of fucktards!The Blair Bulletinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13865475859374289349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-53692804385267097152012-06-04T20:39:56.152-05:002012-06-04T20:39:56.152-05:00AMEN!AMEN!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-69780820929178650582012-06-04T20:37:56.474-05:002012-06-04T20:37:56.474-05:00As a mom who nursed all three kiddos and is still ...As a mom who nursed all three kiddos and is still nursing the youngest (2 in July) we go back and forth with the frequency and times we nurse. As a matter of fact, I thought we were weaning last month and all of a sudden my daughter wants to nurse all day. Yes, I'd love to have my boobs back. I actually said "ew" out loud to the idea of pumping at this stage and getting a cup with a straw.<br /> When we talk about beverage choices I don't offer nursing but sometimes that's the option she selects. I never really labeled what I'm doing as Attachment Parenting but I'm guessing it is?<br />--Regarding sexual abuse: at this age my child views the breast as a source of comfort not a sex object. That's just gross. I also don't see it as a sexual act. That's even more gross. Unfortunately, my boobs have been pretty utilitarian for the past two years. Ask my husband, he'll agree. ;P I can't wait to get them back, but now's just not the time. <br /><br />Lastly, I don't know many kids who invite their friends over for 'milk' and cookies. Do you? ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-46684943078315380032012-05-25T19:38:28.011-05:002012-05-25T19:38:28.011-05:00Anonymous, you're an idiot. The World Health ...Anonymous, you're an idiot. The World Health Organization and Health Canada BOTH recommend breastfeeding until at least two. And many many cultures worldwide breastfeed far longer. It is OUR culture which is OBSESSED with breasts that gets so hung up over breastfeeding. It ISN'T child abuse. It's completely natural. Yes, the cover of the magazine is stupid. But breastfeeding a child until he/she self-weans is actually THE NORM when considered from a world-wide and historical perspective. <br /><br />YOU are the one is fucked up. But you know what? Our entire culture is fucked up when it comes to over-sexualizing women...so, it isn't really your fault. But being a total asshole to a woman who is simply sharing?--totally your fault.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-83855726189996763982012-05-22T12:40:39.571-05:002012-05-22T12:40:39.571-05:00Dear Anonymous:
You seem to be hung up on this chi...Dear Anonymous:<br />You seem to be hung up on this child molestation thing, which makes me think that something like that may have happened to you in the past - if so, I am really, really sorry. I am sure that it is easy to see molestation everywhere if one has been molested, but you are an adult now and have the responsibility to get over your issues and not take them out on others. If you have ever breastfed, you know that there is very little enjoyable about the act itself, unless we are talking about the sheer relief that comes from having one's overly engorged breast emptied - but you get that same relief from a breast pump. If there is any enjoyment in breastfeeding, it is that of being close to your child and believing that you are doing what is good for them. Children, of course, get the enjoyment of closeness and nourishment. If any of that is sexual, then stroking your child's head, hugging them, giving them a kiss is sexual, too. Do you hug and kiss and pet your child or do you avoid any and all physical contact for fear that it might be misconstrued by the child, yourself and/or those around you? Had I been asked how long I thought one should/could breastfeed before I ever had a child, I would have said a year, year and a half. I probably would've raised an eyebrow at a woman with a child older than that still breastfeeding. However, I ended up nursing my daughter until just last week, and she is 2 1/2. Nothing sick or sexual about it. It actually got to the point where I was glad to be done because on the purely physical side of it, there was nothing enjoyable about it. My daughter associated it with the warmth and comfort and love she has always known. She decided that she no longer needed that type of reassurance to go to sleep at night (just like Lena's child my daughter, at the end, would merely nurse when tired and about to go to sleep). She has discovered other mechanisms to soothe herself to sleep. I truly feel for you if you have the feeling that the only reason anyone would breastfeed that long would be for some sort of misguided pleasure. I am sure if someone conducted a long-range study on the phsychological welfare of those who breastfed past 12 months or 18 months, one would find that they are perfectly normal if not healthier than most of us. If you were to interview sexual predators, on the other hand, you would probably find that extended breastfeeding is not a common characteristic among them. I am not trying to make you feel bad because I feel for you, but I do need to call you out on this because you are hurting others when it is you who are hurt - sorry if I sound like some sort of hippie, but in this case, I think, this sort of language is justified.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-35764925266779133112012-05-22T12:37:31.784-05:002012-05-22T12:37:31.784-05:00Dear Anonymous:
You seem to be hung up on this chi...Dear Anonymous:<br />You seem to be hung up on this child molestation thing, which makes me think that something like that may have happened to you in the past - if so, I am really, really sorry. I am sure that it is easy to see molestation everywhere if one has been molested, but you are an adult now and have the responsibility to get over your issues and not take them out on others. If you have ever breastfed, you know that there is very little enjoyable about the act itself, unless we are talking about the sheer relief that comes from having one's overly engorged breast emptied - but you get that same relief from a breast pump. If there is any enjoyment in breastfeeding, it is that of being close to your child and believing that you are doing what is good for them. Children, of course, get the enjoyment of closeness and nourishment. If any of that is sexual, then stroking your child's head, hugging them, giving them a kiss is sexual, too. Do you hug and kiss and pet your child or do you avoid any and all physical contact for fear that it might be misconstrued by the child, yourself and/or those around you? Had I been asked how long I thought one should/could breastfeed before I ever had a child, I would have said a year, year and a half. I probably would've raised an eyebrow at a woman with a child older than that still breastfeeding. However, I ended up nursing my daughter until just last week, and she is 2 1/2. Nothing sick or sexual about it. It actually got to the point where I was glad to be done because on the purely physical side of it, there was nothing enjoyable about it. My daughter associated it with the warmth and comfort and love she has always known. She decided that she no longer needed that type of reassurance to go to sleep at night (just like Lena's child my daughter, at the end, would merely nurse when tired and about to go to sleep). She has discovered other mechanisms to soothe herself to sleep. I truly feel for you if you have the feeling that the only reason anyone would breastfeed that long would be for some sort of misguided pleasure. I am sure if someone conducted a long-range study on the phsychological welfare of those who breastfed past 12 months or 18 months, one would find that they are perfectly normal if not healthier than most of us. If you were to interview sexual predators, on the other hand, you would probably find that extended breastfeeding is not a common characteristic among them. I am not trying to make you feel bad because I feel for you, but I do need to call you out on this because you are hurting others when it is you who are hurt - sorry if I sound like some sort of hippie, but in this case, I think, this sort of language is justified.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-59658187485851288202012-05-18T20:20:55.495-05:002012-05-18T20:20:55.495-05:00oh - but you can't be a real mom if you don...oh - but you can't be a real mom if you don't let the child dictate what to do with your own body. don't you know that? You're so selfish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-12321998209617154152012-05-18T20:10:59.433-05:002012-05-18T20:10:59.433-05:00Thank you!
When will this self indulgent trend en...Thank you! <br />When will this self indulgent trend end?<br />and the co-sleeping? let's look at it for real shall we? How does the man figure in this? I knew someone who practiced this BS and the hsuband had to move to his own room down the hall. The children slept with the mother until they were 5 and 6. and even then it was a huge battle. By that time the relationship was long over. In the old days there was a hierarchy. I know that is dirty word nowadays but there is something in "mommy and daddy say so" that we have lost. this Attachment parenting thing subverts this idea. doesn't sound politically correct but this is what is happening. that's why people have a gut reaction to it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-14875397737562126912012-05-18T19:52:48.299-05:002012-05-18T19:52:48.299-05:00zackly X 2.
I would also add that I have a problem...zackly X 2.<br />I would also add that I have a problem with the idea that the child is dictating what a woman does with her body. It's a bit different when the baby is young and you have to make sure they get what they need. But when they are 3 -4- 5 years old and basically having an argument with mom about getting their "milky" (I have seen this)- you have crossed the line form looking after your baby to spoiling and indulging your child in the name of some sort of idea of pure parenting that is superior to what every generation has done previously.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-43873069423839754112012-05-18T07:11:09.062-05:002012-05-18T07:11:09.062-05:00So then most women for most of history would have ...So then most women for most of history would have to be incarcerated. That can't be right.HistorianMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052334411968524596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-25442706724223306642012-05-16T16:05:46.513-05:002012-05-16T16:05:46.513-05:00I was a latch key kid, not because of the reasons ...I was a latch key kid, not because of the reasons you gave out, but because my mother was working her ass off to get a nursing degree. Did we cosleep? Yep. Why? Because we were living in a one room(as in, ONE ROOM, not bedroom) apartment on a hideaway bed. I had to learn how to take care of myself, but just in the sense that I learned how to make basic meals and do my own laundry by eight years old. By the way, I am a guy, but my wife went through much the same issues as I did, because while she had both parents, her mother was a nut and she had to learn fairly quick how to take care of herself. <br />My wife and I have three daughters who have been raised a little different each time, because, HEY PRESTO, they are three diffrent people. Is it any goddamn business of anyone how we have raised our kids? Not when people remark how well behaved and happy our kids are. <br />Now to the main question. Is my wife mom enough? Tell you what. Anyone who wants to ask that can send a reply to this and I will be happy to meet somewhere to discuss it between me, them and Mr. Fungo Bat.StayAtHomeDad12https://www.blogger.com/profile/04006749476498386943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-76434031209850588042012-05-16T11:54:37.159-05:002012-05-16T11:54:37.159-05:00You are just as bad... quit the mommy wars.... I...You are just as bad... quit the mommy wars.... It is not sick to nurse a walker. Babies walk as young as 8 months. <br /><br />To compare having sex with a child to a child being in the parents bed is very disturbing. Mine don't sleep with me, they have their own beds - but if they are scared in the night - they might come in for a cuddle. If you think that is sexual, you might want to question your own tendencies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-11333531960552584462012-05-16T09:38:46.186-05:002012-05-16T09:38:46.186-05:00Where did she say she enjoyed it? Also, why is fe...Where did she say she enjoyed it? Also, why is feeding your baby the milk we were biologically made to produce tantamount to child abuse? If you don't want to nurse your kid, then don't. But maybe read a book or an article about the benefits of breastmilk before you start spouting ignorant comments. We are mammals, just because we can type words on a keyboard doesn't change that fact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-17233885078884920922012-05-14T22:45:45.396-05:002012-05-14T22:45:45.396-05:00YES! This is one of the best comments on this ent...YES! This is one of the best comments on this entire post. Thank you, thank you, thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-6351367770139020252012-05-14T22:39:52.752-05:002012-05-14T22:39:52.752-05:00+1 ... So disappointed in this post right now.+1 ... So disappointed in this post right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-4475980297173120212012-05-14T22:27:54.271-05:002012-05-14T22:27:54.271-05:00@Lisa ... THANK YOU. Couldn't have said it be...@Lisa ... THANK YOU. Couldn't have said it better myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-91335210119320514222012-05-14T22:25:52.109-05:002012-05-14T22:25:52.109-05:00Yes, good thing you did wean him at 1. Wouldn'...Yes, good thing you did wean him at 1. Wouldn't want to have to teach him about sexuality and the human body... *eyeroll*<br /><br />Besides, you may want to check up on your kid. Apparently it's not considered "normal sexual behaviour" for a child to think an erotic magazine is erotic in any way before the age of nine. (See http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_What_Normal/?page=2) Perhaps it is instead a learned behaviour from someone else inside the home? Yes, that is simply speculation but so is saying that he would have becomes sexually aroused from breastfeeding after the age of 1.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-7335749943930361622012-05-14T22:19:16.222-05:002012-05-14T22:19:16.222-05:00You have a lot of questions about attachment paren...You have a lot of questions about attachment parenting that could be easily answered by those people who subscribe to that parenting method. It could offer the opportunity to turn your assumptions into realities and make you look way less ignorant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-58306421394535441742012-05-14T22:16:15.245-05:002012-05-14T22:16:15.245-05:00'Cause, you know, I constantly read magazines ...'Cause, you know, I constantly read magazines from 10 years ago to find things to tease my friends about. And with all the internet stuff, I can SO easily find articles from that long ago.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-28164157659439308622012-05-14T22:13:02.341-05:002012-05-14T22:13:02.341-05:00AMEN! Exactly what I was thinking when I read this...AMEN! Exactly what I was thinking when I read this. I love this blog but this post has me so sad. Attachment parenting is ONE style of parenting and Jen certainly seems like she has AP parents labeled quite nicely... Coming from a 29 year old AP parent who also subscribes to many other parenting styles, it's just disappointing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-18892692014186269802012-05-14T22:00:56.573-05:002012-05-14T22:00:56.573-05:00@Deb - I have to disagree. As a successful entrepr...@Deb - I have to disagree. As a successful entrepreneur and mom to an 18 month old (whom I breastfeed, co-sleep with and still carry) and someone who runs/walks on a regular basis, attachment parenting CAN be done while balancing all of those things. I still go out with my girlfriends every week, I go to the spa regularly and I do date nights with my hubby. I think you can do it all and not feel like you are returning to the 1950s or feel pressured to do so. I'm living proof of that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-18401953789190483172012-05-14T21:54:22.551-05:002012-05-14T21:54:22.551-05:00*eyeroll* Grow up. Breastfeeding is a natural par...*eyeroll* Grow up. Breastfeeding is a natural part of parenting. The only reason YOU think it's perverse and a form of molestation is because you view boobs as a sexual object. Do you think they only turn into sexual objects after the age of one? Do boobs have a timer on them? Moron.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-55768962314886035242012-05-14T20:16:50.439-05:002012-05-14T20:16:50.439-05:00Shut the fuck up with your stupidity. So if a chil...Shut the fuck up with your stupidity. So if a child starts walking at 10 months, they are now too old to nurse? You're ridiculous. The WHO even recommends till age 2. Duh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com