Is anybody else tired of celebrities being treated like royalty? Because I sure am. I read a lot over the last couple of days about Beyonce and Jay-Z's escapades at the hospital and it really made me upset. I was a NICU parent 7 years ago and I can't imagine being denied access to my kid because a celebrity also happened to give birth when I did.
So I've written an open letter to Beyonce and Jay-Z and I really hope they read it.
Dear Beyonce and Jay-Z,
Congratulations on the birth of your daughter.
I was glad to hear that you were able to have your friends and family (including your makeup artist) come and visit you and your new daughter and you were able to have a catered lunch.
That's great.
But what I really want to talk to you about are the NICU parents sharing the hospital with you whose feelings you didn't take into account for one second.
Was it really necessary to lock down the entire floor and block parents from the NICU just so you could use the hallway? I get that you're big stars and you have to worry about security and whatnot, but there's no reason to be complete assholes.
You know how right now you feel an overwhelming love for Blue mixed with a little fear, uncertainty and anxiety? Well, NICU parents feel that times a million and the last thing they need is more stress added to their already stressful lives by a couple of divas (you're one too, Jay-Z, don't deny it) who think no one else has ever given birth before.
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When you're in the NICU it is almost unbearable to pass the "normal" parents in the halls who have the pleasure of choosing whether or not they want their baby in the room with them, choosing whether to breastfeed or bottle feed, or the worst: the parents taking large, robust babies home in adorable outfits with lots of photo ops while your child is still hooked up to machines and fighting to live.
These are the parents you had no regard for.
When you're in the NICU, you get 2 maybe 3 visitors allowed at a time. Each visitor must scrub in like a surgeon before they're allowed in the nursery. Some visitors are barred at the door if they show any sign of a sniffle or a cough - that is certain death for many of the babies in the NICU. Some babies are so sick they can't be handled, so their parents just gaze at them and whisper words of encouragement like, "C'mon buddy, you need to fight now. You need to be strong, because Daddy and I love you so much and we need you to be with us."
Those are the kinds of memories these new parents were making while you were hosting a catered lunch.
The NICU parents were eating cold soup from a vending machine and realizing that the perfect birth they imagined was not happening and what they really needed was some compassion and instead they got hassled - by your "staff."
When you're in the NICU, you need support and lots of it. You need your family and your friends to rally around you and keep you going. Some parents are in the hospital with their babies for days, weeks, months and all they live for are the visits that continue to sustain them.
Imagine the distress of these parents - the ones you didn't care about - to find that their loved ones had been relocated or stopped from visiting. Not for a cold, but because someone in your entourage needed to go out for a smoke or whatever was so important to shut down the hallway.
Were these measures really necessary? I get that you need to worry about your security, but on the other hand, what are the chances that someone who wants to injure you, your baby or one of your visitors just happens to be in Lenox Hill Hospital with a baby in the NICU that day?? Pretty low is my uneducated guess.
We all want to protect our children, but covering up security cameras sounds like a way to protect your wallet more than your child. It makes no sense to me that you're so worried some crazy person is going to get you that you install bullet proof windows and doors, but then you cover the security cameras? If, for some reason (God forbid), someone did get in, you'd need those cameras to help catch that person.
I think you covered the cameras because you want to be sure no one has a picture of Blue. You want to be the ones to sell her image to the highest bidder without the worry that a grainy surveillance photo is out there. By covering the cameras though, you put everyone else's child at risk and that was a shitty thing to do.
I understand what happened, I really do. New parents are PSYCHOTIC. We all go through it. It's just what we do. Even the most normal and down to Earth people lose their shit a bit when they have a baby. I don't know why we have such high expectations from our stars. You guys are so out of touch with reality to start with and then you add first time parents to it and you guys go crazy. I mean, seriously, a $500,000 minivan?? WTF? Who is going to drive this? Will you need a shower while you're making a run to Babies 'R' Us?
Either way, it's over now. Now it's damage control time. It's time to admit you were wrong and put out an apology. Jay-Z - own it. Once you sell the photos of Blue, a nice sizable donation (i.e, the whole check) to March of Dimes would be great. Or better yet, pay the bills for the parents in the NICU that you disrupted - who are probably still there today wondering when their child will be able to go home.
PS - This story could all be rumor and conjecture. I have no idea what to believe anymore. I see articles and stories and then they're retracted. If none of this is true (as the hospital is saying), then set the record straight. I truly hope it's not true.
UPDATE: Since I wrote this post an investigation has been done and the complaints against Beyonce and Jay-Z and the hospital have been dismissed.
SECOND UPDATE: I received an email from the mother who was denied access to her twins in the NICU. She thanked me for bringing attention this matter. Her babies were still in the NICU when I heard from her, but she was going to be bringing them home that day. She assured me that her story is the truth and that she will be taking further action about the matter. She didn't want to do anything until her babies were home and healthy. She promised to keep me posted.
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414 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 400 of 414 Newer› Newest»I think so much of what has been printed or said has been speculation or hearsay or people wanting either money or 15 minutes of fame. Until you know the true facts, this went beyond your typical humorous diatribe and into slander. I don't love them either, but I don't believe all the so called witness reports and gossip magazine reports. I think the truth lies somewhere in the middle.
You nailed it again!!!!
You "knocked" this one out of the park! Glad you have decided to start a blog and I really do look forward to reading it............!
http://lenoxhillhospital.org/press_releases.aspx?id=2394
you are so right about all of this. some people just dont care about others, im sorry this happened to you and the others with children in NICU. thats the problem with this coutry, everyone thinks of them selves without any consideration to others. Really what makes Jay-Z and Beyonce think that they are above everyone else, if they are so worried about the safety of their child,why wasnt she born at home? thats how my 2nd grandson is being brought into this world. It all boils down to lack of consideration of others.
From what I can tell, there aren't any families that filing official complaints, and all evidence at this point seems to point to the contrary of this letter. Regardless, the fact that this can't be verified really gives this tirade an air of impetuousness. Especially since the possible actions affected you in absolutely no way.
"Uneducated opinion" pretty much nails it.
On a side note, poking fun of the child's name is simply petty.
If i had their money i woukd do the same thing for my unborn child....its their money they can spend it anyway they like....when i gave birth to my son i had to share a room with another new mon and i hated everyminute of it....i wish i had the money to close a section if a hospital when i gave birth
It's weird how being a mother can make one delusional, paranoid, and neurotic as well as completely illogical.
of course they had to protect their baby and themselves and they had the money to do it! You should be punched in the throat for being so nieve and dumb to think they didn't need to do cover their bases like they did! Get over it and move on.......who gonna check me boo!
All I have to say is I am outraged by this, being a mom to 3 kids that were born healthy I still would have been terribly upset if say my husband couldnt come see my kids... I hate the fact that thes celebs think that cuz they have money that it should be different for them... Well I have news for you guys you put your pants on the same was as I do -One leg at a time- So why should you have the rights to have that hospital to yourself??? You wanna have kids then you do it the same was as I did and many other moms have in the past... And well put is all I have to say about that letter, I love my kids and there would have been hell to pay if I was a NICU mom.
Being a mom of a 10 1/2 week premature baby myself and having that child stay in the NICU for over two months, I can say from experience that I would have gone APESHIT if denied access to my child. I think it is completely selfish and unreasonable for Beyonce and Jay Z to think they deserve better treatment because they have money. Go pound sand!! I will not support your careers anymore!!
This had me crying... kudos for calling them out, someone has to.
- Jess
gracefacebaby.com
Very well said!!!!!!!! I back you up 100 % on this. I hope the whole world reads this. I was so disgusted when i read how they treated people. I hope they feel like total shit after they read this. Sadly though, they seem like a couple who doesnt give a rats ass, and this whole situation probably wont even phase them. I didnt have much respect for them before, but now, i have absolutely none for them. Their baby isnt anymore special than anyone elses.
My twins were 10 weeks premature and if anyone had tried to stop me from seeing them ... heads were gonna roll! So, celebrities can afford to updo their room and they can do all the walking in their room and they can hire a private nurse to keep it all private ... just don't deny mothers and fathers who needed to see their wee ones the chance to see them! My husband literally blew up when I shared with him the stories of Beyonce and her crew denying access to other parents ... that's a first time in years that I have seen him get so upset. Obviously the memories of the anguish and fear we've experienced when the boys were babies haven't gone away.
Thank you for sharing your letter with the rest of us ... it's nice to know we're not alone!
I'm an Ultrasound Tech and work in a Hospital. I don't care who you are, who you're related to or whom you work for, you will be treated just like everyone else...no better. These celebs today are ridiculous.
I wonder if all these authors of these comments have happy husbands. Seems like most of you are little princesses that demand everything they want and refuse to listen to common sense. Its such a shame that men actually have a need to make sense in their arguments. It's such a crutch. This website was probably created because they author has a depressed husband lol.
was that mean? sorry.
I agree completely. Well said
Wow!! As a mother I pray that these are just some really nasty rumors. They themselves know the heartache of the loss of a child. So to deny other parents the right to be by their child's side while in NICU is just heartless. Only God, the Carters,and the hospital know the truth. I ask God to send blessings to all the families and the children who are in that hospital. May every baby grow to be healthy blessed and productive.
Nobody should have to wait to see their newborn child. On the Today show this morning, they interviewed a couple who stated that they had to wait 20 minutes for a nurse to get their baby from the nursery. The husband said he would go to the nursery and was told he couldn't be in the hallway due to "hazardous materials" there.
Many celebs give birth in the hospital and there haven't been these issues. JLo, Mariah Carey ... only this stuff happens with Jay & Bey? Weird that they're so controlling.
And, yes, these two idiots inconvenienced other parents who shouldn't have to wait to have access to their babies regardless of whether their little ones are in the NICU or not.
I have to say... I'm a bit disappointed you didn't mention the "oh-so-fabulous" rap that Jay Z found time to record seemingly minutes after Blue was born. I swear I could write better "lyrics"....but whatev.
Nicely said. Society has let celebrities evolve into people who think that they are better than others. This overinflated sense of grandeur has long been ingored and tolerated. Good on you for calling them out and saying what everyone was thinking. ...and the hospital administration needs to grow a set(and probaby get an excellent lawyer as those parents and anyone else who was denied acess to their MINOR children have a stong civil case if fought correctly).
Before you decide to go off on people from hearsay make sure what you are writing is true.Do you really believe that hospital would allow that?hell no why would they risk being sued by several other patients.That ain't enough money to risk being shut down and sued.Anybody that believes this story is gullible.And as far as selling their baby pictures anyone who knows anything about them knows they would never do that.They are too private.Seems more like you just want to dog them out and make them look horrible.Looks like you need something else to do with your time than spread foolish lies,You gonna believe what you want no matter how ridiculous it is.The hospital has said from day one none of this happened yet you still spreading it over the Internet.
AMEN!!!! My son was 4 weeks early and in the NICU for 10 days I didn't get to hold him until he was days old. If a person was to tell me I couldn't not see my baby because some DIVA had the hall blocked off I would have gone crazy on their ass that is just CRAZY!! Shame on them all Shame on the hospital, the staff, ALL of them. I hope this letter is read by them welcome to the world of parenthood.
I guess it takes a bitch find the negativity in others over child birth. But i guess that's what this blog is for. You're not trying to be a positive person, but find the flaws in everyone else because there's things you cannot accept about yourself. Feel better ya big bully? ;)
Well said! As a mom to a NICU baby (now an angel) this makes me want to kick their @SS! My son was born with a birth deffect and wasn't even alowed to cry at birth. And for the 23 days I had him its was ALWAYS a matter of "I hope he is still alive today" one thing no one has said is what about the NICU parents like me who may have been min. By min. With their little ones alive or dead? They better hope none of the babes died alone because the parents wernt alowed in in time! If this stuff is ture I would be sueing the hospitel and these so called "stars".
I used to like them both but now all I want to do is KICK their @SSES! I am so sorry that kid will be rasiesd but such @SSHOLES all I can say is POOR KID!
i agree with you 100 percent.i would sew the fuck out of them and the hospital
Well, here's the kicker ... The hospital could have said "NO" or planned better since it was a scheduled C-Section ... in fact, they could have offered to do a home deliver for 1/2 a million.
First, thank you SO much for saying it "like it is." And it IS like this. Second, to those who are encouraging fact checking (which I wholeheartedly support), this shit really did happen. I am Facebook friends with one of the parents and before he had interviewed with the media, he posted a status update on his Facebook wall, clearly livid with the treatment he received from B/J-Z's security team. He was, in fact, turned away. And his family was told to leave the waiting room. And he isn't the only NICU parent who encountered such despicably horrible treatment from the Dynamic Divas' "entourage." Some hospital staff acknowledged what was going on in preliminary news stories, but those accounts aren't in any of the newer stories. So, yeah, B/J-Z are douches, as well as the powers that be at Lenox Hill Hospital.
I was a NICU parent to 2 out of 3 of my babies!! They were both full term and nice size babies and unfortunately horrible things happened and Both my babies were on oscillators fighting for their lives! I never new what it was like to bring a baby home with me! Thank god after 2+ weeks in the NICU they came home! Now mind u this was 2 different babies 2 different times, and if some celebrity was at the same hospital as me and that happened I would of done the same thing and made sure something was done about it! They should be ashmaed of themselves and apologize to all the parents whose lives were affected by this! Disgusting!!!!
I sent it to the tmz staff see what happens
i am a mother of ricnic baby at childrens 12 yrs ago if they came n told me i couldnt go back to see my dying son they wouldnt have enough security to keep me off of anyone who tried to stop me!!!
Well said.
Extremely well said! My first born was in NICU after being born - no one would have gotten between me and him. He was on life support and every minute counted.
I remember well women being rolled out with healthy babies - and Jayz and Beyonce have as much class as the mother that asked me when being rolled out with "It's a boy" balloons and no baby in my arms "what happened to your baby? Did you drop it and break it?" (NO JOKE)
And Lennox Hill Hospital is a stinking dump for allowing this to happen. Who the heck would choose to have a baby there after the disdain they showed the NICU parents??
Nice to know where you don't want to be in case of an emergency after birth.
In my Rick James voice "They Rich Bitch"...... Get over it!
Truth be told, they covered the cameras because there are reports that she wasn't truly pregnant and they used a surrogate. In no way, shape, form or fashion does that or any other ridiculous reason, give them the right to deny other parents the opportunity to see their babies. Nor does it give them the right to put EVERYBODY in the hospital at risk. Self absorbed idiots!
Well, if your jealous isn't obvious in your violent words I don't know what is.. you are acting as thou they are being to over cautious of their child, all while defending your love for yours? My favorite part is when speak of parent with "normal" birth as if that's something they stole from you. People are given different obstacles in life, don't bash others for not going through the same as you.. as far as them being "divas", well I just see it as parents protecting and celebrating the birth of a child. Do u have any idea what its like to have people follow u day in day out? I mean shit celebs can't get married, go to the grocery store, or even be seen in public with out being hounded... Excuse them for wishing to have privacy on the most important day of their life. It's not jayz and beyonce's fault that the hospital was to stupid to make sure they had a protected area that wouldn't effect the other parents... Honestly, it it was a planned birth the hospital should have made the proper arrangements for them. You are passing judgement on a couple for protecting their child stating they weren't allowing others to protect their own.. I mean honestly I think its BS... I believe that we, as fans, are the reason celebs have to take drastic measures in times like these, and then u judge them for doing it? Get real!
I really hope all this nonsense isn't true..I was a NICU mom for 11 days w/my son. This was the most upsetting time of my life..leaving my son behind as I got to go home..I was in so much pain physically from my C-section..I would say on my behalf that's the most painful operation ever..but for the life of my son, that's how he had to be delivered..I had dangerously high preeclampsia & delivered my son 6 weeks early. I wasn't able to experience birth naturally, but I feel a C-section is pretty damn close to a natural birth..anyone that's had a c/section I'm sure would agree it's no walk in the park..it shouldn't matter HOW you deliver your baby..it's about the health of the mother as well as the baby that determine which delivery method is needed at the time; some of else didn't have the choice to deliver naturally due to the situation...if the hospital condoned this ridiculous behavior, that's on them. Every patient's medical history is protected by HIPAA privacy act and should be equal to everyone..if they were that worried about exposure, they should've had at at home birth or something other than s hospital where "the rest of us non-famous people" go. This isn't a music video or party..it's the birth of a child...a human being..not a reality show. It's too bad that the other NICU mothers & fathers were had to go thru this if this really was the case.
Wow to everything i think the gossip is stupid and that B and JZ didn't become celebrities overnight they had to work. So they deserve some respect.
^^^^ WELL SAID^^^^
douche bags. Well said Jen
The nicu is a place you end up, not a place you choose. As the parent of three 27 week nicu alumni, I can agree that a punch in the throat is easily due.
Common sense is priceless.
I just sure hope no one LOST THIER CHILD while the parents were banned from seeing them in the Nicu because a celebrity was around.
Who in the hell cares who gives birth at the hospital.. all the matters is that you did, and now you can't see your most likely ill child. I thought celebrities gave birth at some magic celebrity hospital where they can get whatever they want. not at the normal ones. and yes, it drives me nuts that she's calling her scheduled csection a natual birth. lol what is with these people not having vaginal births???!!
I'll join the giant healthy baby club, and thankfully have never had to visit my infant in the NICU.. but I feel so horrible for anyone that has.
hilarious!!!!thanks for posting this..i hope they read this too! :} *cheers
It needed to be said. As one of those NICU moms who hung by the clock for my visit with my baby boy, thanks. It was hard enough watching all the smiling happy parents with healthy babies beaming in the hallways. To have been denied access would have pushed me over the top. What a stressful, emotional, heart-wrenching time. Mama bear instincts would have kicked in for sure.
get a grip, woman. Focus on your own life, not that of others.
Could not have been said any better! Hats off to person who wrote this!
anyone sticking up for their musician heroes are straight-up pathetic. get a clue. they don't give a shit about you either, dumbasses.
Seriously that is rediculous. If I was one of the parents there at the time of Beyonce and Jay Z and was denied access to see my baby at any point in time I would be sue. If they wanted to have privacy and were that worried about their saftey they have plenty of money where they could of scheduled a home birth or a private birth at a birthing center, how dare they go to a hosptial and not have concideration for any other person in that hospital, not just the parents but as well as the little ones fighting for their lives. It's discusting.
I feel what every one wrote its true and sad at the same time. How dare they try to keep someone from seeing there child that is pure bullshit (excuse my French) but its true I would have been carried out in handcuffs cause no one not even the president gone stop me from seeing my child especially after all the pain you go threw having them and someone stops you from that. Selfish I say. Beyonce and Jayz need to apology and like you said make a donation to the march of dimes. And one more thing Mrs.Diva should of had a home birth if that was the case smh...
AMEN! You go girl! I hope some how some way they actually read this!!!
My son and I (a 28 week preemie) spent 80 days in the NICU with surgeries, major o2 issues, ROP, and all the challenges that come with being a 28 weeker. The NICU was my home for 80 days, and the nurses and Dr.s my family. My son is now 18 months old (actual) and we still keep in touch with our NICU family! When I first heard this - I just couldnt even begin to imagine being denied access! Then yesterday one of the Preemie blogs I follow posted this press release: http://lenoxhillhospital.org/press_releases.aspx?id=2394
I was grateful to know that no one was denied being able to see their tiny miracles!
Thank you for this! As a NICU parent this hits home. I am so pissed that the hospital & staff allowed this to take place! I think B & Jare complete assholes but who are the aholes at the top allowing this to happen in their hospital??!? I am going to also write them a letter. <3 this blog!!
i'm the mom of a NICU graduate, too, and while she's healthy and happy now, it was touch and go at the beginning. i've never known such stress. if i'd been told i couldn't see my baby because someone with a healthy child just wanted some privacy, i'd have thrown the mother of all tantrums (with a hella lot of crying thrown in!) this behavior is unacceptable. both hospital and parents alike should be ashamed. it's unwarranted and inexcusable.
leigh
I will concede readily I have been extremely lucky. 3 births, only one with an epidural, none with NICU longer than a few hours.
First...a c-section is NOT A NATURAL BIRTH. Now, I am not casting shadows onto the necessity of them, nor am I saying any mother who has them is lesser for having them. I have a sister pregnant with twins, and it is highly doubtful with her tiny stature and their positions that she will deliver either naturally. However, she, nor any other c-section birth I have ever known, is calling this a NATURAL birth.
I have 3 natural births under my belt. They were not easy. My recovery was, compared to that of c-section recipients, I know. However, EVERY mother who has had a c-section, not of choice but of necessity, has my EXTREME respect. I cannot even begin to imagine the worry.
Second.. how DARE she and that pompous jerk she married shut down the NICU because of their child! How DARE they rob other parents of the joy and bonds the first several hours and days afford new parents!!! I have not liked Beyonce in over 10 years because of her antics, but THIS definitely clinches it!
Beyonce & Jay-Z...your child is NOT more important than the "average" person.
If you want to prance around and be prima donnas, you have the money to GO SOMEWHERE PRIVATE. The fact that you completely screwed other parents out of this time with their children is unforgivable and heinous. Way to show the entire world what pompous selfish crap you truly are.
So I like your blog a lot... That being said, I don't appreciate your c-section comment. I legitimately pushed for 2.5 hours before it was no longer safe for my baby. I didn't do it out of convenience.
I was a NICU mommy, my son came 2 weeks early but was born with a blood disorder that left him needing a platlet transfusion. He was only in the hospital 2 weeks, but every single day me and daddy were there, if his happened to me I would be in jail so busting pass their "security" and telling that diva was I think of her more so her lack of talent.
You are so awesome! Keep up the good work! I agree with the whole letter, but especially with the part about taking that check and paying the hospital bills for all those parents for whom they had no concern!
Well said.
Let's address what wasn't said... we - the American people - need to get our priorities straight and stop worshiping celebrities like they've hung the moon and this sort of diva-like behavior, selling Baby's First Photos - all if it just goes away.
As the mother of a 24 week preemie 1Lb. 1oz I can't even imagine being kept from my baby. If this would have happened to me you can be sure I would have an attorney for the hospital to answer to. And if this is true they should be ashamed of themselves.
it's not the first time celebs have rented the entire floor of a hospital, hotel whatever they want. I agree, arrangements should have been made to deliver the baby at home. she could have her tummy tuck done as an out patient later.
Well written and behind you 10000%. My wife pulled 50 hours of natural labor no drugs. I can't believe these clowns
I was a NICU mom and spent every single second I could with my son who was born at 27 weeks 6days and spent 66 days in the hospital before I was able to being him home. He was very sick didn't know if he was going to make it and if I was told I couldn't go see him because of that I would of went off and a lawsuit would be on the hospital and the divas there. This breaks my heart for all the parents that couldn't see their babies. Nice letter
I was a NICU mom, and know better than to believe idle gossip and bored people who want to start crap online. You know darn well that if they didn't allow parents in it would be a REAL public relations nightmare and lawsuits. Come on, get your FACTS straight. They paid for the executing perks, some people can't afford it, not their falut. Ease up on the "hater-aid" a bit and lighten up. Spend this energy on facts, not stories to rile people up.
Maybe she said it was a natural birth so people wouldn't criticize her for having a c-section. Something I wish I didn't have to deal and listen to day in and day out. Oh, you didn't have a baby...you had a csection. Not by choice, and I only wish I could have had a natural chid birth. I'd like to punch everyone in the face that thinks they're all high and mighty because they didn't have a csection...they're not as easy as you think. Screw you.
I agree with all that you said. I would have had to be arrested if they told me I couldn't see my baby. On the C-Section issue...if it is a scheduled, preferred method of giving birth...one who doesn't wish to "pee later on in life every time they sneeze" because they gave birth vaginally...well, then NO it is NOT a natural birth. Now as for the women who have complications and have no choice other than having a C-Section, this is a NECESSITY and by NO means any less of a birth than a "natural birth"...you are actually under much more pressure and stress because you are in a dire situation. So, for the ones offended by the previous comments, I am certain the comments were NOT made to those who were in an urgent situation but were in fact for the ones who scheduled this "issue" around their "schedule". Sorry for rambling :P
I too was a NICU. Mother 4.5 years ago. We were told that our daughter who was showing signs of lung and heart failure could die at any moment so those visits were crucial to us! I probably would have punched every person who stood in my way in the balls. Thankfully I now have a feisty 4.5 year old but not everyone is so lucky.
I think that those bastards not only should pay the bills of every child in the NICU but they should also make a face to face apology to the parents AND babies because the babies rely on those visits just as much.
And to the people who sat back and allowed it to happen SHAME ON YOU.
Stacy S: she wasn't saying that a c-section is less special or anything like that. By saying a "natural birth" that would imply no meds out the woman parts. Very painful and not medicated up so you can't feel anything. I didn't have a c-section but I definately had my epidural! So don't think she was saying anything about it not being normal, she said "natural birth".
Amen sister! Mine weren't NICU babies, but I would have flipped out if I couldn't have seen my babies!
As a mother of two children who were NICU babies, I would be at the throat of the hospital officials if I were not able to see my babies. This is awful and that the hospital allowed this and that Beyonce and Jay-Z did this is appalling. I agree with you, March of Dimes donation and payment of those NICU babies hospital bills!
If they have so much money, why didn't she just have the baby at home? Why take the joy your having with your baby from everyone else?! Both they & the hospital should be ashamed (and sued!) in my opinion! This makes me sick that they even think they are higher power! I know at my hometown hospital, this would NEVER be allowed!!
PREACH IT! As a NICU/PICU/PEDS RN, I see heartbreak on a daily basis and I think I am most upset with the nursing staff for not taking a stand against this, if they tried and were shut down by the admins then fine...but they still should have tried. It is the worst thing imaginable to be separated from the life you just had inside of you after he/she is born and for some $$$ bags celeb couple to take advantage of their wealth and the misfortune of other parents is a disgrace. We as human beings need to stand up for eachother...oh yeah I forgot Beyonce and Jay-Z are super human ans the rules don't apply to them. The facility should be ashamed of themselves for allowing this to take place!
My Daughter was only in the NICU for a week, but if I had been denied access to her due to a famous person?!? I can't imagine. I completly agree with this. Who do they think they are? Really, if you have that much money you can afford an entire Hospital staff and ALL the machines you need in there own nursery. Which I am sure is the size of my apartment and is designer decorated.
if Jay Z and Beyonce tried this shit while my Isabella was in the NICU, i'da shown Jigga the Marcy Project fights he'd been in aint shit compared to a scared new mother with her baby girl attached to machines.
WOW!!!!!!!!What a world we live in. Ppl Please stop focusing on least important topics.We have some much going on in this world today. We are truly living in the last days, be very careful for whom you place yr judgements upon. If they are guilty of any wrong doing they will have to answer for it!!!
The stupid hospital should of told them they need to leave! They really think another mother or family member visiting a baby that day would go and attack beyonce? Wow I think they were more worried about there own baby! I blame the hospital as well! Sounds like beyonce is very selfish!
Ok I'm an asshole!! I too have a 1year old. But I must say that if I was rich and famous as them I would have done the same thing. So would you. I'm sorry for the babies who are fighting for their lives. I feel sorry about rules and regulations that anyone else would have to abide by. This is how you repay the entertainers who have sacrificed normal everyday regular lives so that people can have what we call entertainment. Hate it or love it people, being extremely successful has it's benefits and who wouldn't take advantage. Sorry bout the cold soup. It would have been cold wheather J & B was there or not.
As a RN in a baby hospital, I can't believe the hospital would allow it! They could of hired people to come to her mansion to deliver her baby. I'm sure they had enough money to have a CSection at home. At the hospital I work at confidentiality is high priority. They do not deserve special treatment.
Whoever the administrators are at that hospital need to be smacked for allowing this!
You have bad energy. I'm sorry but at your "job" do you inspire millions of people like a Jay Z performance does..? doubtful. Get with it not comparing apples to apples and you don't know the full story now do you?
Thank you! That was very well said!
As a mother who had triplets in a NICU I would be thankful for the security. I would feel better knowing my babies were not going to be caught in the middle of a crazy stalker or paparazzi mess in a hospital. I would trust Beyonce's security more than the hospitals. And if I was asked to step out or wait while the halls were secured I would. Perhaps Beyonce and Jay-z were concerned about the safety of the entire NICU. This is a celebrity who has been stalked.threatened and requires security everywhere she goes. Do you want your baby in the next crib without some serious security? Im pretty sure if she could have avoided the hospital scene she would have. The baby is in a NICU for a reason.
Bravo!!! I applaud you for speaking your mind and speaking for all of us who agree with you.
From a mother of 4 , one being a preemie and pregnant with baby number 5 , if anyone did this to me when i give birth ... i will raise hell!
I agree..that is sooo wrong on so many levels..i dont understand if ur sooo worried about the nicu bbs families n ur so stinken rich why u guys couldnt make ur own nicu with ur own staff rather than make it harder on these families..u have no idea how much the babies survival depends on the parents talking 2 them n being with them..come bac down 2 earth b4 u have another bb..n 4 the hospital 2 allow this 2 happen u need 2 b sued..
You tell them Girl. I'm right there with you.. spread the word... They're both so self centered..
i have nothing to add. Well said.
Deep hearted thank you for putting into words how I feel. More power to you. I hope this gets seen by those two and the hospital staff. Shame on them.
May wanna do research since the hospital already said the story is complete BS.
I think before you make a judgement such as this you should find out the facts instead of just relying on the media. There was no C-section for Beyonce she had her child natural as in out of her vajayjay. She was in a room that is reserved for high profile people were security may be a concern. If you were famous and your child or yourself was the target of possible nut jobs trying to kidnap you or your child you would have security watching over you and yours as well. The New York board of health investigated and even reported they found nothing and that no complaints have been made to them. And I am sure the hospital would know what they could or could not do and would make sure they complied as I am sure they do not wish to be sued. So before you jump to conclusion check your facts and if you cannot find out for sure then dont go around condemning people for things they have not done!
I am an NICU parent and I got to know many other parents of the NICU while I was there. I felt almost guilty when I finally got to take my son home but others had to stay. And while my son was in the NICU, there was a baby who ended up NOT making it. I literally lived in the NICU, leaving only to shower, eat, and occasional nap on the chair in the hallway. I always felt the need to be by my son's side as much as possible, to support him, make sure he knew he wasn't alone, and in case- god forbid- something happened. At least I could be there to hold his hand.(makes me sick to even think about it) Can you imagine if you were the parent of the baby who passed away and you were not allowed to get in to see your baby because of this, and then they passed away. I am so upset by this! But I think I am even more upset at the hospital for allowing this to occur. "Mommy and Daddy"really ought to be ashamed of themselves, but the hospital should as well for allowing this to get so out of control!!!
I hope this is an accurate account of what happened. I would feel bad for all the crap they are taking if its not true.
you go girl! how disgusting can people be?
First off, how would you feel if your child was teased about their name. Or were you ever teased about your name. I feel sorry that adults would ever do that to any child.
I also had a child in NICU, 2 as a matter of fact, and one who will have special needs the rest of her life. I feel like there is a lot more to the situation then what has been told to the media. The lady just had a CSECTION!! AND GAVE BIRTH TO HER FIRST BABY!!! Man, can you imagine the postpartum, when all as a momma you are trying to do is protect you and your baby, and you get this kind of shit!!!
Damn, do we know if her baby had complications? Do we know if her baby is going to survive? Did they say they kept these other families away for HOURS, DAYS!! Do we REALLY know what happened. All I know is, a new mom who is probably scared, is going to find this stupid ass letter on the internet.
I was a NICU mom for a week and a half. Twins born full term but they still had to stay. They were not well at first, and GOD FORBID, if anyone had kept me from my babies, I would have killed them with my bare hands! I applaud you for this. It is absolutely appalling what has happened to these parents!
Well deserved punch in the throat for them - they are disgusting and no matter how much money they have it won't wash that scum off them
I was lucky enough to have a healthy child born this past summer and I could not even imagine the emotional damage that doing all that would have done to the parents of the babies in the NICU. I really would just hope that at this point they see how selfish they were being not to mention ridiculous b/c lets be honest if you wanted that much privacy do it at home (not like they don't have the money to not only hire the hospital staff for a day but to build their own hospital room)instead of putting EVERYONE else there out. I could not even imagine the stress of not being allowed to see my newborn and that's not even mentioning that these newborns were or are all very sick.
You need to stop making the same points over and over - it's annoying and makes the whole letter a much longer read then it should be. Also, try not to say "NICU" in every other sentence.
First of all, the people commenting about not knowing if this story was true, you don't know either. So for all you know you could be defending a coverup.
Secondly, it may or may not be true. But was moving regardless. I give my sincerity to those families that have endured such a horrible time. And any family with birth issues.
Lastly, they are celebrities and they have money. They can do whatever they please, unfortunately. And there is nothing we can do. Nor do we know what they actually do.
So stop bickering over what is and isn't the real story. Because either of you have any real possible idea what really happened during that birth and the events that came before and after.
Thank you. My daughter was in the NICU for 13 days. She was one of the lucky ones to be there for the short term. It was long enough for us to know, respect, and love the NICU. I have many friends who have had babies in NICU, also, sadly.
Thank you so much for your post. It brought tears to my eyes, but I'm so glad you brought this to light. It is unbelievable and one of the most selfish things I have ever heard of.
you described much of my feelings as a 60 day NICU mom... darkest time of my life... my baby boy is 15 months today and doing great - but I will NEVER forget the feelings of passing the "well" baby nursery, living in the postpartum ward and being at home without my pregnant belly... or my baby...
I think that what they did was total bs and need to make apologies. That makes me so mad that the hospital let that happen. I mean for crying out loud it is not like we give a rat's ass about your baby, we are here for our baby. I am glad that someone said something now only if it would get back to them and smack them in the face. What they did was pure insult to all new parents especially the ones in NICU!!!!!
I feel for this poor child who has ZERO chance of being a normal person with that dumb (oh I'm sorry....artsy) name, and tools for parents...who will surely not actually raise the kid because there's nothing trendy about being a mom. Or being a dad who serves his wife/kid. Actually, isn't it "politically incorrect" to do that today? They wouldn't want to offend anyone.
High five to u!! Well spoken from all points of view!
I teach journalism - it's my job to teach students to be critical thinkers - don't be sheep and believe everything you read. Once I read that she had a c-section (which she didn't) I was suspicious of your post.
http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/lenox-hill-hospital-clears-the-record-on-beyonce-birth-136968058.html
Get over yourself, with all the invasion of privacy issues out there. I support them for trying to keep this very private, they have done a great job keeping there own lives private. I'm in the healthcare business and I know for a fact they did not disrupt or keep anyone from seeing there child in a NICU. From what I know about VIP's there provided an unoccupied area away from the normal flow of things. I'm sure they had to pay for there own security to screen anyone in there area. The hospital I'm sure had nothing to do with the false rumors steering around. Just get your head out of your ass and stop making false accusations.
I love your great words. I am the grandparent of premie twins, who spent their first months in the hospital. With all their money they could have set up at home and bothered no one. I can not believe that any hospital would let this happen. Punch-in-the-throat ? How about size 12 up their stupid a$$ !!!
Oh Hell!!! Someone would have had to call security for me along with the media, the patient advocates and the hospital president. I am a mom of not one but TWO kids with heart defects, and I would be DAMNED if some snotty nose celebrity kept me from my child! Especially for a PLANNED c-section. The hospital should have PLANNED ahead if those were the measures needed, to make sure that the mere mortals of this world had access to our children. After all WE made the celebrities and unforutanly it has gone to their heads!
Bravo to you lady...for the most retarted letter I have ever read. Next Blog why Jay-Z and Beyonce want to PUNCH YOU IN THE THROAT!!! Stupidity at it's finest right here!! You should really read what people are saying about you on thier facebook walls...you are a laughing stock dip shit!!!!
I am a NICU nurse and I just gotta say AMEN SISTER!!! Tell it like it is!! I love you and your blog. A lot. It's on my wall...love it!
Shame on the hospital....for letting this shit happen and shame on b and j for thinking that they are above the rest of the new babies weren't shit...with all that money...you think ththey would have built a little hospital of their own so they wouldn't have to be bothered with all the commoners
C section is not a natural birth. and never will be. no one is saying that c section is any less of the most amazing experience a woman could ever have just saying that it is not a natural birth. whether its an emergency c section to save both mother and child it is not a natural birth. it is not considered natural to have the baby taken out by surgery, that would be considered the opposite. it is not the natural way for babies to be born. i was a baby born of c section and that was the only way i was coming out, it was the most amazing thing my mother ever went through in her life and when she witnessed the birth of my three children the natural way (vaginal delivery) she could not put into words how amazing it was. it is natural for babies to be born vaginally. there is nothing wrong or anything less wonderful about babies being born by c section but calling a c section natural is incredibly unnatural. lol that is all. reading the posts of some of you getting defensive over the fact you have or know some one who has had a c section accusing the writer of the first post of belittling your experience is unwarranted. that is not what was said nor was that implied. what she said about calling c section natural is spot on. it does not matter why the c section was done it is just not the natural way. when you go through hours or days of labor and severe pain that nothing can or will ever compare to then spend hours pushing a human being out of your vagina ripping and tearing and stretching and burning, every muscle in your body exhausted from exertion to the point where you think it can not be done and your baby is finally born then you can call your birth natural.
1. rather than blogging, plz send this to the news, so more people know about it. I didn't know they prevented other parents from seeing their children until someone shared this blog with me. 2. B and J are celebrities. Her birth was totally hyped up and all a show!
Well said, I have so many thoughts about this, anger and disgust for what they did and painful/happy memories Of the NICU. I'm a NICU mom and had the extroadinary honor of bringing my daughter into this word were she put up the fight of her life..........she's now my angel watching over her sisters and brother. You would have had to pry my hands out of your heart that I would be tearing out of you if someone stopped me from seeing my Rachel! Shame on them!
Whoever believes this is stupid lets be serious and use our brains if any of you dummies have any which i pretty much doubt from the comments i see....first off the whole story about some guy not being able to see hie his babies cause they was on the same floor as beyonce was a lie the hosp even commented on that lets think people if she locked a whole floor down why would other babies be on her floor and im pretty damn sure the hosp didnt let people see their own babies and i dont blame jay or beyonce for shutting down a floor they wanted it to be private the madia is all in they business n this is they speical time!!! and when shes ready to show the world Blue she will til than everyone needs to shut up n n let her enjoy her daughter n let her live shit!!!
Amen! Our son was in the NICU for 11 days! If somone told me I would not be able to go in and see my child because of some celebrity they would have probably had to call security on me! Horrible!
What would make me enraged if knowing that every minute could. Me the last w my child and if the divas blockage had preventing me from begging w my child in that last moment I then would have given them something to fear
Who in the good God Da*n H**l are you to judge? I mean, REALLY? Seems you are relying on tabloid journalism and TMZ type updates to use as a basis for your rant. Here's the deal ... THE WORLD IS UNFAIR. Money most often wins out, but to go all postal and accuse anyone of a false birth story (B had her vaginally while many state a scheduled C Section occured ) is completely out of line! You are sooooo out of line unless you were there, personally, and saw either of the two stars mandating what you have said happened, and I have yet to read that from anyone (Yeah, HOWDARE Beyonce hog the lactation consultatnt or Jay J ask for room service?) that they have first-hand experience. NEWSFLASH: Hospitals are money-making entities. Want an equal birth? Go to a clinic or hire a midwife. THere is nothing equal about healthcare. Those with the money receive the best care. Get over it. I have. And should B and her husband get wind of this, congratulations on the birth of your sweet girl.
I agree to all of the moms and dads on these post. I was a NICU mom for a week(thank God!) and no words can describe the emotions of those parents. When you're a NICU parent, every second counts. every breath and movement matters. I saw parents celebrating because their baby finished half a bottle of milk, some were praying that their baby will be strong enough to breath on his/her own. Those are just some of the moments that you dont want to miss when you're a NICU parent. You will never understand how hard it is to go home without your baby unless it happened to you. The parents suffer from stress, they wonder how they are going to pay their hospital bills?, is there anything that they can do to help their baby?, when can they take their babies home?, will their babies survive? those are the questions that NICU parents have on their minds everyday second of the day and the last thing that they need is a celebrity couple having their first baby, shut the whole hospital down and keep the NICU parents away from their baby. what if something happened to one of the babies in NICU? the parents should have been there enjoying their last minute with their son/daughter but NO! they were outside wasting their precious time arguing with your staff. I understand that Beyonce and Jay-Z are superstars, but if you really want/need that privacy that bad... why didnt you just pay the doctors to come to your house and give birth there? i mean, if you have the money to close an entire hospital, you should have the money to buy/rent all the apparatus and doctors that you need for Blue's birth. so now, your baby will be famous not only because she's the daughter of Beyonce and Jay-Z but because she's the reason why the hospital was closed in 2012. But theres nothing that we can do now, it already happened. I just hope that Beyonce, Jay-Z and the hospital will face those NICU parents and give them the sincere apology that they deserve. I also hope that nothing happened to those babies in NICU while their parents were outside fighting for their rights to see their child. SMH, ridiculous...
I have much respect for Beyonce and Jay-Z. They seem like great people. But I will have to agree with what was wrote, because I can relate. When my first child was born, he had no heartbeat. The dr's worked so hard to get him breathing. When he finally took his first breath, he was rushed to NICU, where he stayed our entire week long visit at the hospital. We weren't even allowed to touch him for the first 3 or 4 days of his life. I was only allowed to see him through the nursery window. By any means if he would've not made it through the night or had brain damage (like they told us he would), I would've been livid if I was forced to leave. I wanted to be there for every breath he took, because I never knew when or if it would be his last.
Well said. After all I went through I would have been pissed if they denied me access to my preemie. I had a c-section with my 31 weeker...nothing natural about it.
I was a NICU parent 8 years ago for 90 days. I am very upset and hurt by this. My son was born by emergency c section when I was 26 weeks pregnant due to my having HELLP syndrome. Not only was this NOT the way I imagined my sons birth but I had to have a hysterectomy and can not have any more children. I was ONLY 20 years old so that was VERY painful to be told I could not have more children. Not only was my son fighting for his life being only 1LB but I was also fight for my life. When I was well enough to leave ICU and saw my son for the first time I broke down seeing him so tiny and hooked up to so many machines. I could not even touch my son let alone hold him! I no longer have any respect for these selfish uncaring celebrities! The hospital should have never allowed this! The hospital was very unprofessional in my opinion! Bellow is an album of my son when he was born. I really hope these people make a public apology!
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I was a NICU parent 8 years ago for 90 days. I am very upset and hurt by this. My son was born by emergency c section when I was 26 weeks pregnant due to my having HELLP syndrome. Not only was this NOT the way I imagined my sons birth but I had to have a hysterectomy and can not have any more children. I was ONLY 20 years old so that was VERY painful to be told I could not have more children. Not only was my son fighting for his life being only 1LB but I was also fight for my life. When I was well enough to leave ICU and saw my son for the first time I broke down seeing him so tiny and hooked up to so many machines. I could not even touch my son let alone hold him! I no longer have any respect for these selfish uncaring celebrities! The hospital should have never allowed this! The hospital was very unprofessional in my opinion! Bellow is an album of my son when he was born. I really hope these people make a public apology!
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2941867103334.2151901.1160890685&type=1&l=a4eeb4ff67
Awesome, well said. I am a grandma of twins who were in the NICU 5 weeks. Those babies break your heart with all the wires on them. A punch in the throat would be letting them off too easy. They were lucky they didn't end up in the same hospital as our babies because my daughter would be locked up right now. Very well said. I applaud you. I do hope this gets to them. They are not special. The NICU babies are. Thank you.
Awesome, well said. I am a grandma of twins who were in the NICU 5 weeks. Those babies break your heart with all the wires on them. A punch in the throat would be letting them off too easy. They were lucky they didn't end up in the same hospital as our babies because my daughter would be locked up right now. Very well said. I applaud you. I do hope this gets to them. They are not special. The NICU babies are. Thank you.
Being a mother who had 2 babies in 2 different NICU's for 3 days whom I visited everyday 2-3 times a day... I would be infuriated if this were to happen to me. To not be able to go and visit, talk to, feed and just hold my babies would be devastating. Wow I really can't believe that, thats so inconsiderate... I definately would have had a f' ing fit!! She could have just had a home birth, or reserved a freaking secluded island somewhere and had her baby if it was that serious... WOW!
Your post really irks me. I appreciate that you told your story, but the way you maliciously attack a couple who just had a baby with out knowing all details is just sad. To use what you learn from entertainment sites/gossip sites is never a good thing and, if this isn't true, you just dragged people down into the dirt with your speculation. Also, to use subtle jabs, and say rude things to make your point doesn't do anything. If someone had a conflict with me, and this is how they approached me, I would be wary of giving them the time of day. This post just fuels the fire, and I do hope that the truth does come out. The hospital sent out a statement...so if anyone isn't satisfied, then it should be those people, and not random people who don't know the entire situation.
Again, I understand that it is a stressful situation; I've been there, and my mom had chicken pox when she had me..I was in the NICU, and they didn't even think me or my mom would make it..thankfully we did.
^Thank you...um Anonymous. I agree completely. I mean honestly. Does the author of this blog have an all access pass or what??
With the kind of money they have, they could have rented out an entire Urgent Care Center and set up search lights and barb wire fences with machine gun turrets around the place --- but that might have gotten them the wrong kind of publicity.
This is the wrong kind of publicity, and no amount of celebrity should spare them from it. This is a chain email looking for someone to start it.
Loved everything you said...The hospital is SOOOO wrong to the ought to be apologizing too.
Well said!
If it was my child in NICU and I was being kept from them because some celebrity popped out a kid, I'd be suing the hospital and the celebrity for the hell and stress it was causing me.
Love it! I hope the parents get apologies.
So the more I hear about how Beyonce and Jay-Z acted over their daughter Ivy Blue Eyezzz #4 or whatever cutsie clever name they came up with to one up the other celebrities, the more I want to BARF! And if this isn't bad enough, they released the baby's 1st cry on a soundtrack, which of course is available for purchase to capitalize on her royal voice already! I mean come on! Can they be anymore OBNOXIOUS about this birth?! I'm really just soooo sick and tired of these celebs thinking they invented pregnancy & the child birth process & that their babies are the most special, amazing and miraculous of any on the planet when they are born. News flash to all the obnoxious rich celebs out there: ALL BABIES ARE EQUALLY PRECIOUS MIRACLES AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AS SUCH REGARDLESS OF SOCIOECONOMIC STATUS!! Gtf over yourselves already. PS I thought Beyonce was better than this but apparently not. I have lost all respect now. The end.
Former NICU mom here, sharing. Hoping it gets spread far and wide.
I am reading these comments defending them and it's cracking me up. People act like bc they are successful celebrities WE owe them empathy for how hard their lives our and how they sacrificed normalcy for OUR entertainment? REALLY? How about there is no normal! How about they are human beings that eat, breathe and poop just like every other human on the planet. And oh yeah, they also make CHOICES as we all other humans do. They CHOSE to act like douche bags and bc this girl is calling them out on it, she is being attacked and they are being defended. REALLY? Bad behavior is bad behavior. She isn't behaving badly by having an opinion. THEY behaved badly by ACTIVELY doing the distasteful, insensitive things they did. It was extreme and unnecessary. Other famous people have had babies and didn't act this obnoxious! They chose to be classy and act respectfully, sensitively and tastefully. It's only recently this obnoxious celebrity birth trend has started. It's funny when someone makes a bad decision or decisions how the person having the guts to speak out against it gets attacked. And as for the baby's name & how would you like it if your child was made fun of for their name? REALLY? All parents wonder if that will happen. Celebrities too. Again, they CHOSE that name. It's ridiculous and clearly chosen to one up other celebrities as the 'most clever/trendy' name! I'm pretty sure they are more concerned w being #1 trendy baby namers and marketing and selling whatever they can (her cry, her laugh, her photos, etc) to make money than IF she will be teased. And uh, she probably will cause uh, just cause she is a celebrity doesn't make her exempt from normal childhood teasing we all went through and survived! And people are entitled to opinions about her name. Jeesh!
Agreed! So you know what we needs to be done now? When they sell Blue's picture to People (and you know they will) don't buy the magazine. I don't care if I never hear about these two self-centered divas ever again.
Brilliant. I agree with every word!
You should tweet this to the proud parents! I hope this is a rumor.....every baby is special, no one child should get specialty treatment over another because their parents are celebs.....seems baby Blue is giving everyone the Blues......
So AmenAlicia28 your comment is really idiotic. Like seriously, I wanted to barf after reading it. No one is defending the behavior, some people are just saying that the actual sources are claiming something totally opposite. Funny how you can say some nasty things behind a computer screen. Were you there? Do you know what actually happened? Seriously, tone down your judgmental attitude. The person who posted had every right to do so, but that doesn't mean that everyone has to freaking agree. When you post on a public forum, and then use social media to spread the word, you can expect to see more than one opinion. Your comments makes absolutely no sense...you're attacking people who maybe want to see some CLEAR FACTS...not just what some gossip site has reported. Ugh...that song isn't available for purchase either...it was posted on his blog site. Seriously...you are clueless.
I had an emergecny c-section at 31 weeks exactly. I didn't get to hold my daughter for the first 6 days of life and even after that it was rare that we were able to hold her for a few weeks. I would have gotten the police and filed a kidnapping charge if they had kept me from my child for any other reason than a sterile procedure where its just doctors and nurses allowed. and had anybody trapped me in any room for any amount of time I would have filed a charge for imprisonment. The hospital is as much to blame for allowing this behavior. People act like divas because establishments and the butt-kissers of the world allow them too. my heart goes out to any of the parents who were kept from their lil bugs. I know how it felt having my own in the NICU for 6 weeks and I can only imagine the added stress this caused to any of you...
I am a NICU father. My son Adam was born at 24 weeks at 1 lb. 3 oz. and we spent 118 days in the NICU... all the typical ups and downs for a micropreemie... you guys have my full support!
How about you Get your FACTS RIGHT! she never got the whole floor!! she paid regular frees and blocked off that certain part she was in. and those people are attention whores because the hospital NEVER got any complaints about parents not being able to see their child. They overreacted so befre you talk crap research. Rude ass...
As far as I've read, Beyonce and the hospital deny this even happened. The hospital said they had a suite, not a wing. And that no one was blocked from the NICU (why would they risk numerous lawsuits?)... I read one thing that said a Dad was "trapped" in the NICU for 10 minutes while security escorted someone in (or our, I forgot).
I think that people need to get their heads out of their butts. They did what they had to do to protect their child from crazy paparazzi. The State isn't investigating, no one's even filed complaints with the Dept of Health.
At the end of the day, another family welcomed and undoubtedly beautiful baby girl to the world. Congrats, Carter Family.
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/entertainment/2012/01/health-officials-will-not-investigate-beyonces-baby-delivery/
If they needed that amount of privacy,they should have gone to another country like Angelina Jolie
As a NICU mom of preemie twins, I couldn't agree more with what you said. The month they spent in the NICU was one of the most excruiciating times in my life. The stressed seemed to increase minute by minute and I spent countless hours staring at their monitors, so worried one (or both) of them would stop breathing again, or have heart problems again. I began and ended each day, night and visit to the NICU with tears....and can only imagine how I would have reacted if I had been blocked from seeing my babies by a celebrity.
While I doubt it will happen, I agree that a sizeable donation to the March of Dimes is in order!
I have to not follow you anymore and take you off Facebook. This took so long to read and it was repetitive. Not to mention a dissertation on things that may or may not be true.
The NICU parents have a voice and I am sure they would use it if prevented from seeing their own children.
You need to chill. IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Even if you think it is.
Find something happy to do because anger is contagious.
Well-written, my friend! I agree, that all new parents are absolutely psychotic...something they definitely don't tell us about in the childbirth classes. No one parent and no one child is more, or less, important than any other. I'm hopeful that it was falsely reported by the media, because the alternative is too sad to consider.
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While I am majorly blessed to have never known the horrors of having a child in the NICU, I would have done more than just punch someone in the throat for preventing me from being as close to my child as possible. They would have had 99 problems, AND this bitch would have been one!!!
AMEN.
I did not read all 350 comments, however, I will say that this is freedom of speech. Do not attack a blogger for their opinion, clearly you have yours. As far scheduling a c-section just to have one, is absolutely riduculous. If it is medically necessary, of course, but to not attempt to have a vaginal birth is just plain diva. As far as names...while I do not like it, they are the parents, so be it.
If you really want a private birth... do it at home!
I would've gone CRAZY if denied one second with my daughter while she fought in the NICU. She lived six days and was stable one minute and crashing the next.
The stars are divas, no doubt. Money can't buy class or manners. But the hospital should be ashamed. They issued a statement saying the stories weren't true, and I hope they are right. But I know a woman who had a horrible experience there on top of the trauma of a full term still birth. I would not put it past administrators to go for the money...it's their job.
And I also think it is tacky to attack the name choice, although I'm not a fan either. But I appreciate you writing this and hope it makes an impact.
wow... such a bunch of haters. you know what. they are famous and famous people have stalkers beyond what you and i have. if jay or b treated anyone shitty i'd like to believe they will or did apologize. last time i checked... we werent there so we shouldn't believe everything we hear or read
I love your blog and have true compassion for NICU parents having had friends go through it, BUT how do you know this really happened? If the NICU and other parents were so put out, why aren't they filing formal complaints with the hospital or a state medical board rather than talking to TMZ? I think some people are cashing in on this...just sayin.'
Well said! I too had a NICU baby and you're right - you LIVE for those few visits you're allowed each day - totally NOT cool Beyonce and Jay-Z!!
Usually, you make me laugh, but this makes me want to applaud. Good. Point.
Hospital administration is the ones to punch in the throat! Why on earth they allowed this to happen is pathetic! Its all about the publicity, and therefore, the money. Make those ass clowns pay for an entire private unit if they insist on this behavior! I hadn't heard about this before reading this post, because, frankly, I don't follow this type of crap, for this very reason. Our public is also to blame for worshipping these idiots. If everybody who follows this crap put as much energy towards making the world a better place instead of reading their People Magazine, who knows what could happen!
I completely agree with you I am disgusted by their actions!
Well said! A lot of celebrities have no regard for the common "folk" and think our little lives are so insignificant compared to their's unless they are needing our money to boost sales on their record or movie. I have an idea, how about if celebrities all get together, and build their own little city to live in where the rest of us can't disrupt their oh so important lives. They can pay to have their own grocery stores, hospitals, schools at no cost to taxpayers. It just sickens me that we continue to pay these people's wages yet they have no regard for us.
Wel I posted a link to this story on FB last night cos I just loved this and wanted to share... got a bunch of comments all agreeing with you ( and my like of the article) and today its gone. And so is everyone's who shared it. When I tried to repost today I got this message- "The content you're trying to share includes a link that's been blocked for being spammy or unsafe:
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They don't block some much of the really annoying crap but they keep you out... FB is about history for me.
They can't delete it if you just post a link to your status, instead of hitting the share button. Mine hasn't bee deleted. :)
Very well said! You totally rock Jen!!
Having a NICU baby myself I would of scratched out eyes to see my child! She had NO right....
Well said!! I would not put up with it! The first thing I thought of is that I would yank the paper off covering those cameras, lol. My hubby and I have both worked in security for a long time and I would have loved to been there to mess with their security guys. We know the laws well and what we can do. I would have had them ticked off instead of the NICU parents!! :-)
It wont even let me share this letter, it says its been tagged as being spammy...what crap!
I was so entirely outraged when I heard about this that I wish I had the power to lock their child "Blue" in a room and keep them from seeing their child as they kept the NICU parents from theirs. Who names their child after a BLUES CLUES character anyway?! Did you not think of the torment that child will endure??? OBVIOUSLY NOT! As for the OP - THANK YOU! You've said what so many kept to themselves.
I know if my wife and I would've been kept from seeing our son because of them security or not they would've seen the wrath of one pissed off father.
I didn't see anything in the post about c-section vs. natural delivery so I'm not sure what that is about in the comments. And I don't know to what extent any of this gossip is true. But IF IT IS, it's horrible. I am also a former NICU parent - emergency C-section three hours away from home - and waiting to even see my child for the first day was bad enough, living with a polaroid instead of his little body on mine. All I can think about is if one of those little lives let go of their struggle during that time and the parents were barred by celebrity egoism ... thank goodness that didn't seem to happen.
I'm not sure the lack of individual parental complaints in the media is any indication of truth or lack thereof. First, they're hopefully too absorbed with the health of their child to be speaking to the press, and second, their attorneys could have advised them against it. It will be interesting to see what the upshot is and how this impacts future similar incidents.
I don't know why they get such special treatment, their music sucks anyways lol they shouldn't have the rights to have that much control over the hospital, and shame on the hospital for allowing this crap to happen!!!!
-Joe V
I try to stay away from celebrity gossip because I find that all of Hollywood and high profile musicians disgust me. I have nothing nice to say about any of them and their demands for some water cultivated and bottled 250,000 miles from home and that the rooms in which they stay have to be set at 69.2 degrees. I decided though they are rich and have gone to places of wonder and have cars that are nicer and more expensive that any house I will ever have, that they are lower evolved life forms for their complete disregard towards the world and the people in it.
Facebook appears to be censoring sharing this page, btw
I have twins who spent the first 2 weeks in the NICU and I couldn't have said it any better than you did. Mostly because you rock, and I have the gift of gab, not of writing. :-) "Stars" need to pull their heads out of there asses and those who think of them as special because they are "stars" need to do the same!
I find it interesting that last night I linked this story to my FB page and today...its gone. So I just tried again and it says there is an error that they are working on...but When I left the link off my status...guess what...it goes through! My friends who also linked it to their FB also show it has been pulled!! Is that allowed? Freedom of speech????
Facebook will NOT post your link or share this Unless you post it as people I want to punch in the face dot com and copy and paste your letter. They've removed it from EVERYONE'S page. I tried posting 4xs. I agree w you 110%.. While I don't like the name of your site. Lol I like the way you think.. :)
And here I thought the cameras were to cover up a surrogate. I feel sick that I didn't even consider that they'd want to sell the pics, and more sick that that's probably exactly what they plan to do. Celebrities are so warped and lost from reality. I would love to punch so many of them in the throats.
Let's put market principles to work to show.all involved how unimpressed we are: stop buying Jay-Z or Beyonce songs and those produced by them until they apologize and make it right with the NICU parents.
Also, those in the area should stop using that hospital (except for emergencies) until the hospital apologizes & pu in writing it will not do this again.
circle of moms has your open letter posted on their site... http://www.circleofmoms.com/article/what-s-like-nicu-parent-02777?trk=fbfp
While I totally agree that shutting down the NICU floor and preventing parents from seeing their precious babies was totally unacceptable and over the top; I have to point out that starting off your open letter to Beyonce and Jay-Z like this:
"Congratulations on the birth of your ridiculously named child. Was "Green" just too trendy for you? I'm glad to see that you're keeping up with the rest of the celebrities when it comes to silly names.
I was glad to hear that you were able to have your friends and family (including your makeup artist) come and visit you and your new daughter and you were able to have a catered lunch."
was NOT the way to approach this couple. Insulting the name they chose for their daughter, whether you like it or not, is rude and immature. If I were a celebrity and you were trying to get my attention to garner an apology or to make me realize how wrong it was to deny parents access to the NICU, I would have brushed off your letter as another ploy for attention or as another crazy who just wants to be in the limelight.
Now had you deleted the part I highlighted, then I might have taken you seriously. There is just no need to ridicule, put down, or insult anyone here. As parents who have experienced the worst, having a baby with a problem or even worse delivering a stillborn or loosing a baby, we should be more understanding, more compassionate, more tolerant, and more sensitive to other peoples' feelings.
I agree that if this story is true, and we aren't even sure it's true, that Beyonce and Jay-Z certainly didn't take the other parents' feelngs into account. I pray they never have to experience the fear, the anxiety, or the pain of having a child with problems or even worse, loosing a child. They still deserve to be treated with respect and dignity and I pray they both learn something from this experience!
You have, like, a million comments, so I'm not sure you will even read this. Either way, thank you times a million for writing this!! I was a NICU mommy and this post brought me to tears.
True dat piwtpitt. Love your view on life!!! Xo
Im not an Nicu Mom,But I am a mom-and I dont care if your the frickin Pope you are not gonna deny me the right to see my baby when every minute they are around they are fighting for their life nd every minute of their battle could be their last HOW DARE YOU!
wow, there are some mean people on here....sorry Jen...btw, I tried to post this on Fb and it kept saying it was not allowed due to possible spamming...you may want to look into that as it's going to reduce your exposure if it's not allowed anymore...:)
Of course the hospital and J&B's publicist's are going to DENY all of these allegations. Who in the HELL wants a lawsuit??? There have been reports of parent(s) complaining, but they will be WELL paid & brushed under the rug. We will never know the truth until someone (from the hospital or J&B's entourage) gets fired.
do you mean 'ordinary' patients? hehehe--'ornery' is how i'd describe YOU. Security precautions? Hire a few bodyguards--or have that baby at home. She could have, for that money, set up a surgical suite in her own home, for pete's sake! sure, it's none of our business--then why are you reading and commenting on it?
Thank you. As a nicu mom who never got to bring home her daughter, even after 20 days,.being full term, and at one of the top hospitals. Had anyone tried to tell me that I couldn't see her, they would have to arrest me. I can't believe jay z and beyonce think they are that much better than us. And the hospital saying it never happened, if course they will do anything to save their name. I don't care how she delivered, she's nit justified at all.
I never cared one way or another about them until now. Now I hate them. With a vile passion.
WOW what fantastic letter well written.
their action display how desperate she truly is to keep herself in the media this fool who has lawsuite after lawsuite and she and the sham marriage partner sean cater have enough $$$$$ for privacy but they chose to spend all this money and be a constant nuisance in the entertainment industry & public eye.
Me and a few friends shared this on face book and later that night FB had deleted it. I think you hit a nerve with someone or they have fb in their pocket also.
Here's what Huff Post has to say about it:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/12/beyonce-baby-birth-hospital_n_1201421.html
As a former NICU dad of twins, this whole thing pissed me the hell off. No celebrity would have stopped me from seeing my kids.
I too am a NICU Mom. And when my little boy was born 8 weeks early. I cherished everyday that he beat the odds. But sadly, he could no longer fight. I was with him and was holding him when he went. And if anyone famous or not famous would have stopped me from having those last moments with my son. I would have gone through them and taken each one down. The Crap that these "People" can get away with, is so wrong. They both need to pay the bills for those parents that they hurt and for the babies that they neglected. And donate money every year on their daughters birthday, to the March of Dimes, and to a Children's Hospital. How sad for their baby to grow up with such an awful name. Oh wait, she will not be attending a public school, so there will be no bullying.. Such awful people. And the Hospital should write off the expenses of those who had or still have babies in the NICU . I'm sure Jay-Z and his Diva wife paid the hospital plenty... Not a day goes by that I do not think of my little boy who only lived for 2 weeks.I had to bury him in doll clothes, not bring him home in preemie clothes.. The hardest thing I ever had to do. So please Jay-Z and Diva Witch get a heart and pay those bills, and make donations.
I mean really with all that money have the baby at home.....
As being a NICU mom of two premies, one a 27 weeker and the other 36 weeker. I spend everyday my precious girls were in the hospital by their bedside. My 27 weeker was the hardest because of being so early and I was was so sick with her the outcome was not certain. I did however did get to do kangaroo care with her. This is what kept me going and I don't know how I would have gotten through my time at the NICU without this bonding delevopling time. I will never know the experience of having a natural child birth as both my girls had to be delivered by c-section due the first one being so early and losing her heartrate. It's a feeling I wouldn't want to put on anyone because I know I felt like I did something wrong that's why they ended up in the NICU.
If this story is true then I feel like they need to express to the other NICU parents that they are sorry for the inconvience that was cause to them. I also feel they should cover their NICU expenses and make a donation to the March of Dimes.
If this story isn't true and it's a rumor then they need to publicly express this.
~Tonya~
These two celebrities absolutely disgust me. I WAS a fan of the "diva" before all this shit went down. Now i would spit in her face and piss on the ground she walked on. No one cares about your precious Blue. There was sick babies in there that needed their parents support and comfort...which because of her and her ridiculous husband they were'nt even allowed on the same floor as their children in need. The hospital covering up for these too should be shut down and prosecuted to the fullest extent. I am a mother of 3 and if i was one of those parents who was'nt allowed to see my child their petty security guard would'nt of stopped me. They would of have to of brought in every military defense in the world to try and stop me. They were completely wrong to treat anyone this way and i HATE THEM BOTH FOR IT. I don't care how much money you have or how famous you are. A child's life is way more important than any money or fame. You cant get your children back after they pass or pay millions to make a new one like other famous sick minded people do. Beyonce and Jay-z you should both be ashamed of yourself's and bury your heads in the ground. There is no excuse for what you did and i really hope all these parents and family's you affected don't stop until some kind of justice is served. Power to the Poor People. You have my vote!
Beyonce and JayZ didnt lose anything lol...you people are crazy!! Go Beyonce and Jayz for financially supporting the hospital for catering to you!! Average people are just jealous bc they cant get that attention!! hey that money they paid will probably be helping your child in the NICU so shut up! This happens at a hospital every time a star has a baby!! get over it!! I wish i was a star too but i am not going to write some letter that their assistant will probably read and throw out! I fail to believe that they didnt let other parents in to visit their babies in NICU!! Careful what you believe...ppl exaggerate things alot!!
Did you not read the part where it said that only 2 people complained, one was annonymous and one had heard the report on the news and then complained. This is a very wealthy hospital and they don't need the 1.3 million. Like most media reports about celebrities, it's mostly lies and 10% true. You are taking the word of a tabloid newspaper over that of hospital staff. Whatever
With all that money, they could have taken one part of their mansion and created an OR for emergency C-Section & a room to have the baby. They have the money to hire as money dr. as they want. Jay-Z & B needs to kick rock; I never spend my money on their music and never will...Very well said Hun!!!
I think that it is ridiculous that a hospital would allow that nonsense. My 18 month old grandson was in the NICU for 18 days and it was very stressful. Scrubbing down and sitting there helplessly,all you can do is pray. I am furious that Beyonce and Jay Z was so inconsiderate and self absorbed. I know my husband and my son probably would have ended up in jail if that had happened in my grandson`s hospital. No celebrity security would have kept them from seeing my grandson
Tell me about it! I am not a fan of their music, but I always liked Beyonce. NOT anymore! It's one thing if you can't get to your baby because of a lockdown or something LEGITIMATE, but celebrities? Give me a break. They are not that important, despite how they behave. And shame on the hospital for allowing it. Some other articles have said different, and like you said, I don't know what to believe anymore. And your itty bitty baby is adorable! Glad everything turned out well.
PUNCH PUNCH PUNCH!!! My best friend spent 3 months in NICU with her son and I was by her side the majority of the time. The moment that the nurse came into her room and told her she could see her son as soon as she used the bathroom, that girl (my BFF) pulled her stapled body up out of bed, used the bathroom and was ready to go! The nurse told her to wait for a wheelchair so as we waited there for 1 minute, 3 minutes, 5 minutes I saw her look of panic like "why are they doing this to me". I bolted out of the room and chased down a nurse scampering in the opposite direction with an empty wheelchair. I politely (at first) said "ma'am I need that wheelchair" she started to explain that a nurse would bring me one and I simply told her a little louder "MA'AM I AM NOT WALKING AWAY WITHOUT THAT WHEELCHAIR" I think she got the point and I gently took it out of her hands and sprinted with it back to my BFF's room so she could finally see her son. Had this "DIVA" situation been going on at the same time, they would have seen a TOTALLY different portrayal of DIVA by me! Good for you for speaking out about it!
This "open letter to beyonce and jay-z" is a little ridiculous, and totally based on speculation. First of all i am a fan of Beyonce and Jay-Z and i really admire how they keep their relationship out of the limelight. Beyonce has had miscarriages before, (listen to Jay-Z's new song Glory) so possiibly they were just trying to take every precaution that they could, and it just so happens that they are able to afford to take more precautions than the average new parents. I gave birth in a maternity ward of a major hospital to a premature baby who did not survive, and if I had the money that Beyonce has, next time I have a baby I would want a deluxe, private suite too! I can't blame her for that, hospitals are not the most private or peaceful places, especially if you have had miscarriages or stillbirths in the past. The truly guilty ones in this situation are not Beyonce and Jay-Z, but rather the hospital staff. In my humble opinion they should have figured out a way to handle such a high profile birth while also treating other parents and patients with dignity.
Agree 100% that no one should be stopped from seeing their baby (or any other relative in the hospital). Agree that they went overboard. Also think that regular people need to stop worshipping celebrities--then maybe "special treatment" wouldn't be such an issue.
Hahaha.. You all just mad cause they got more money than you lol
i don't hold this against egotistical self centered jerks, well because that's what they are. however i do hold the hospital at a higher regard to have common sense to not allow such a ridiculous request. i still find this incredibly hard to believe that the hospital allowed this, its thats unbelievable to me.
i dont blame Jay-Z nor Beyonce, they're used to being treated above all others so why would they expect different in the hospital. its the hospital's job to bring them back down to earth...
Of course charges were dismissed. They can afford a 2200 square foot nursery and a $500,000 minivan. Im sure there was a "donation" to someone somewhere that made those charges magically disappear. What selfish assholes! My 1st son was a NICU baby, only my hospital didnt have a NICU and he was taken 35 miles away while I was made to stay at the original hospital. I didnt see him for almost 2 days. When I did make it to that hospital to see him, if I had been told that I couldnt see him because of some BULLSHIT like this, my ass probably would have wound up in jail.
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